explaining a break-up...briefly

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Registered: 06-16-2006
explaining a break-up...briefly
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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 7:28pm
When someone you haven't talked with recently asks you if you're still dating your ex (she also knows him but hasn't talked with him lately either), but you're not, and the relationship ended on bad terms, is there a way to tactfully say no without simply saying no?...I don't want to say anything bitchy but i also don't want to be so vague that she gets his version of the story and looks at me differently. hopefully this made sense..
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Registered: 06-24-2005
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 8:40pm
Without knowing the specifics it's tough to say. I would simply say that you guys weren't seeing eye to eye and decided to go your seperate ways. If she hears his story and then doesn't come back to you to hear your side than she's not a very good friend!
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 12:06am

Well, I can tell you this ... I once signed up for an online dating site. I met an attorney who seemed great. We had great conversations on the phone and instant messaged each other throughout the workday. I was so excited to meet him. Then we met. Nothing on his end. He wasn't exactly what I was expecting either but I would have definitely gone out with him again had he asked. He never did. I was pretty bummed. All my best friend at the time could say was, "You two just weren't a good match".

So, whoever this person is, just tell her, "We weren't a good match". Trust someone who knows, it'll shut her up ; )