Eye Diversion

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Registered: 06-19-2006
Eye Diversion
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 11:00am

I would like to get a guys perspective on this, but everyone is welcome to pitch a thought.....

In one of my classes there is a cute, genuine and sweet guy. I think he is so cute because he is tall and big with this deep voice, yet so insightful and gentile. I find it really attractive. Although I have not lead onto anything because I never really thought about him until after class last night.

I noticed that when talking to me he diverts his eyes. Like looking at me will turn him to stone. So I thought that maybe he was this way with everyone, especially women. So I kept my eyes open and noticed that he does not do this with anyone else,

What's the deal?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: kcol68
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 11:36am

Either you have something hanging from your nose or stuck in your teeth ;)

Or horror of horrors...both :P

OR he *could* be liking what he sees and just cant handle all the beautiful radiance of kcole...

Maybe he likes you and gets all befuddled like some guys do when they like someone.

Find more opportunities to talk to him and see if he bites. You're a psych person!! All those great communication skills and knowledge of behavior!!! Use it!!!

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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 11:54am

You're so funny... Thanks for the smiles :)

I will have to do some analyzing of the situation and see what happens. The only problem is that we're in group therapy class and we all participate like a client would, so the rules say we cannot talk, date or befriend each other until the class is over.... On the good side, we all have to open up, so I could just show him what a great gal I am and then see what happens. Typically in these kinds of classes, everyone becomes good friends because we share so much of our lives with each other.

Who knows.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: kcol68
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 12:07pm
I took Group Therapy this summer as well and I know completely what you mean. Its a good experience and you'll come out better for it. And it is true, by the end, we were all at least good friends. But it was also very emotionally draining for us as well. Good luck!! At least chat the guy up after class or something..it still within the bounds of "no dating." isnt it??

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 6:44pm

For me being Japanese American, I grew up not looking at someone. I understood that is a sign of respect in most Asian cultures. I had to train myself to focus on the other person's eyes. It is still a conscious effort for me to do that.

I grew up shy as well so that was a double whammy. He may be shy with you.

The other possibility is that since he is taller than you, he may not want to look down your shirt out of politeness.

Part of the shyness-politeness explanation is that he may not want to stare at you because he is just so taken with you and your looks.

When I see a reallly physically attractive woman, I am conscious on not looking at her for I figure that she usually gets stared at.

Mark

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Registered: 09-27-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 4:07pm
He likes you, but is afraid to look you in the eyes because he is shy about it.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: kcol68
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 5:41pm
I agree. Plus, he knows about the no dating rule, so he might not feel like he can do anything about it. Make sure he has a way to get in touch with you after the class is over. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.