Face Facts: YOU may not be emotionally available!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Face Facts: YOU may not be emotionally available!
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 11:27pm

Bad news for those of us who prefer to think it's hard to find a good man:

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Registered: 02-26-2011

At a Starbucks in Hollyweird yesterday, I was waiting for my new :heart:boyfriend:heart: to come. The only place to sit was a shared table with this stunningly fit, gorgeous young guy who looked a bit like Michael Jackson before he had all that stupid surgery.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Oh I think you've had way more results than other people here--and really not much effort.

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Registered: 02-26-2011

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Registered: 02-26-2011

Hey Music,

We had lunch today and he announced that he's decided to take a short term apt close to DD's school and let her live with him or at least see her daily after school.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I don't see why you conclude from this scenario that YOU are the one who is emotionally unavailable when it is clear that HE is the one who has the problem and no business dating until he figures out all his stuff.

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Registered: 03-24-2003

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I think the guy is messed up, though, if he's letting his children dictate his life. I know a lot of people do it, but it's not healthy or good for the children.
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Registered: 02-26-2011

Well, Shy, I must be emotionally unavailable in some important way that I don't see. My newest interest, the separated guy, brought me an orchid on Friday and sat on my couch telling me how great it is to meet me...how he never thought...how he's happy...how we have so much in common...

Then he left to go pick up his older daughter from the airport.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
You have to meet someone before you can be emotionally available. It seems that everyone but you has trouble with that. I know I've had trouble opening up to and being vulnerable with men in the past, but that won't happen on day one, and no one really seems interested in developing more.