Family Hates That I'm Single.....
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| Thu, 12-06-2007 - 2:49am |
Sorry if this is long, need to vent!
I ran into one of my aunts today while Christmas shopping. An aunt I haven't seen in at least 6 months. We made some small talk, and then the words "so do you have a boyfriend" came out of her mouth. Ahh yes, the dreaded question from any member of my family. And you know why? Because I can't go to a single family gathering without the "where's your boyfriend? don't you have a boyfriend?" questions. And then when I reply "he's not here because I don't have one," it's followed by looks of sheer horror, bewilderment, and disappointment. By every member of the extended family. Because I'm just shy of 25, unmarried, no children. The "this is unheard of, what's wrong with her" looks from them is getting really old. REALLY old.
I'm still young. And I'm the only one of all my cousins who didn't graduate high school, get married right away, and punch out a couple of kids just as quickly. Even the ones younger than me are "getting serious."
It's at the point where I don't even want to attend family gatherings anymore because I'm sick and tired of being asked that question, followed by the "we're never going to see a wedding for you, are we?" And then they cease speaking to me for the rest of the evening.
Seriously? That's all you care about? There's something "wrong" with me because I'm unmarried and without children at the age of

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I hate that FAMILY does this to us!
Awesome post!!
I used to get "soon it'll be your turn" at weddings... then I would say the same thing at funerals. I got left alone REALLY quickly!!
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You are not alone. I felt like I was reading a page out of my journal. I am 26 and my family acts the same way. I feel the same way as you. Nothing is wrong with me because I am not married. I am currently dating someone and my family has not met him for the simple reason that they run men off because they are too anxious. They come straight out the gate wanting to know everything about him, how serious we are getting, if he wants to get married. Then before I know it, the guy has run for the hills. I told my mom the other day, the next man you meet will be my husband AFTER we eloupe!
The best that I say is to tell your family straight how it makes you feel when they make such comments. I have gotten downright curt in my responses to such questions. I have also had
 
You guys are all AWESOME!
I appreciate the input, and part of me is glad I'm not the only one out there dealing with this nonsense!
When did getting married become an accomplishment?
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