Feelie McGroperton

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Feelie McGroperton
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 9:57pm

I loved that term so much I just had to use it as a title!


Guys, is this article helpful?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 2:12pm

I don't agree with the first section -- being "sure" she's attracted to you before trying to touch her. I think that subtle touches (like touching her arm or hand when you're making a point in a conversation, or placing your hand on the small of her back while walking) are good ways to determine if she's interested.

I for one am not great at initiating physical contact so, if I guy does these little things, it warms me up and makes me feel more comfortable. I generally reciprocate when the guy makes the first move like this.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 6:29pm

I am the same way.

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Registered: 02-05-2005
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 4:01pm

just reading this made me blush..rofl...

ok first part...attraction is a must. you have to be attracted to the person before you lay one hand or a finger on that person. works both ways for male to female as does female to male attraction. If one is attracted and the other not...well...then respect those boundaries for another few weeks...if is doesn't change...uhem, time to think about moving on.

the other thing is the hand in the jeans thing...not in the first 3 or 6 dates should there be a hand down my jeans. I am working at getting to know this person on an intellectual and whats in your 5 yr future? 10 yr. future? level before i will ever let them kiss me, pat my shoulders, hold my hand,, spank my arse, and fondle my arsecheek. after 6 dates in a 4 to 5 week period(more if that is your thing) then after the 5 to 6 week mark...then do the butt message.

I agree with some things in the article but not where it says that touch from a person means they are attracted to you. the word is boundaries. set them, and stick to them.

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 5:19pm

So it is safe to say that there is no realy way to tell what to do or when to do it...

Every girl is different in terms of what they expect and want so a guy has to feel each girl out differently to tell what they should and when the time is right to make a move.

AM I correct in saying this?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 5:31pm
Yes

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 5:41pm
ok well, I guess I do know SOMETHING then...lol