Feeling Needed
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| Tue, 12-12-2006 - 12:14pm |
So not to get on the whole 'I hate single life, I want a man, it sucks being single' vibe but I was just thinking while I was heating up my lunch one reason why I miss being in a relationship, I truely miss feeling needed. It's not so much that I want someone there for me or someone doing things for me, but that I really do love being there for someone else, being someone's support and confidante. I really like feeling that someone needs me, misses me, can't wait to see me again, has my open arms to come to if they need help and that I have a place in someone's life. This actually extends to a friendhip level also. I just like feeling needed. I extend myself out to people all the time but few people accept it. Everyone is now in their "I can do for myself, I don't need anyone else' mode.
I guess I'm just a nurturer by heart, I want to be able to take care of someone, fix them a good meal, rub their shoulders after a hard day, listen to their inner thoughts and comfort them when they are down. I want to be that person for them. So being single isn't always about what a person can do for me but what I can do for someone else. And I really miss that aspect.
Can anyone relate to that?

Yep. I am the same way. Have you thought about adopting a "little sister" or maybe an elderly shut-in? I know the elderly get really lonely this time of year. Especially if they have no family or, are not in the best of health.
I am very much a nurterer myself. I tend to give a lot to charities throughout the year because of it, because I know there are plenty of people who need and although I don't have a lot, I know that I have more than they so that's how I give back to my community and nurture.
I think the big sister thing is a great idea.
Smile,
Deirdre
If you want, I know a few really, really needy kids I could send ya.