feeling upset

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Registered: 08-03-2005
feeling upset
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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 8:38am
so that guy still hasnt called...I feel like if he were a decent guy he would called by now. Last week he didnt call me (text me) till Thursday, so there's a chance he could still call, but i dont know. My gut feeling is that he wont. I know there's never a guarantee for guys to call back esp after only hanging out 2 times, but i always seem to get 'attached' and think about the ones who dont call. Very frustrating. I dont mean to sound conceited, but i'm cuter than this guy! I know looks arent everything but geez...and he was the one who pursued me in the beginning saying he remembered meeting me months back. I mean even if he does call, it's clear he's 'not that into me' otherwise he'd have called sooner. Personally if i were a guy i wouldnt ask for a girl's number if i wasnt that into her...just seems like a waste of time.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: molly311
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:35pm
Don't let the fact that he has now called distract you from the fact that you might want to take a long, hard look at why you get so emotionally invested so quickly. If you have always taken rejection from men so badly, there might be something that you can do about that.
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Registered: 08-10-2005
In reply to: molly311
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:39pm
Hi all!! I'm new to the board and this discussion really hit a nerve with me. How much time should you give a guy to call after a date? personally I just had a really great date with a guy on Sunday... as great as I thought the date was, he hasn't called me since. Now I know that he's a busy guy, but too busy for a 5 minute call just to say "hi"?
It does kinda hurt a little because it seems I'm thinking about him more than he's thinking about me ... if he's even thinking about me, since he hasn't called.
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Registered: 10-01-2004
In reply to: molly311
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:44pm
The question of how long a guy should wait to call is the eternal debate and has been rehashed on this board a thousand times (do a search on other threads), there's no definite answer. It depends on many things basically.
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Registered: 08-03-2005
In reply to: molly311
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:54pm
lol, i started a thread on that last week...when i was waiting for this same idiot to call! lol. He did call...but took longer than i would have liked...now i guess i should have known the same thing is happening this week. Personaly i think if u went on a date with someone sunday and it went well the best time for them to call FOR ME would have been tues/wed. Not too long, but not to the point where it seems like you just talked. I had a guy i was talking to (was not into him) and he'd call the next day...i didnt like that. So 2-3 days after the date is best i'd say. I know people get busy, guys dont always understand how important that call is to a girl...but they should know by now, not to mention they should want to talk to if they had a good time
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Registered: 10-01-2004
In reply to: molly311
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 2:39pm

With me it's mostly a case of building momentum so you can actually get to know each other, if a guy doesn't bother to call me more than once a week it doesn't seem like he's that concerned with trying to get to know me or that excited about seeing me again if he's always taking his sweet time. Being casual is fine in the beginning but there needs to be some sort of consistency or momentum to how often he contacts me or I just feel like it will go nowhere.

That being said, if I like a guy and he calls the next day I don't think he's desperate at all. As a matter of fact, a guy I just started seeing emailed me the next day and I liked it. For me the guys that purposely wait to call are a dime a dozen and if I like someone and they call the next day it is actually attractive because it sort of confirms their interest in me and wanting to see me again and they don't seem to be playing games either.

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Registered: 08-03-2005
In reply to: molly311
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 2:45pm
well ya if you really like them and the contact you the next day then it's cool. Shows they're thinking of you

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