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First Choice
| Sat, 07-08-2006 - 10:37am |
Question for the girls AND the guys:
How important is it you to be the "first" choice? As in, someone goes out with you, dumps you because they feel it's not working (for whatever reason), but then comes back to you several months later on after dating around?
(And by "not working" I'm not referring to major issues, i.e., drinking, drugs, abuse - that sort.)
This is actually something my girlfriends and I have been discussing and I'm getting a variety of opinions here. Just curious what everyone here thinks.

I don't know that everytime you stop seeing someone it's about not being a first choice.
I think it always feels a little gratifying for an ex to want you back after being broken up. My most recent ex wanted to get back together after 5 months apart and I declined because the reasons we broke up were still there and he wasn't the person I wanted to be with. For me it was like "HA...that's right I am a catch!" and "you're right, you did screw up, over and over".
At this point, I would not get back together with any of my ex's...each relationship was given all we both had and it didn't work, time to move on.
I once asked this question a few months ago....I asked specifically b/c of my friend who is a big handsome muscular guy who attracted the attention of every female in any room he walks into and how girls would approach him and then approach me or one of my other friends simply as a last ditch effort to get close to him. My friends have had girls go out with them once or twice and very obvioulsy ask questions as to how they can get to know my friend...
This friend of mine who gets all these girls is the friend of mine who does steriods by the way for those of you who remember my efforts to start taking steriods.
Anyway I know what you mean about being second choice. Personally I hate to know a girl approaches other guys then sees me and tries me because I was not first in the pecking order...if you know what I mean...but look at it this way...Steven Spielberg wanted Tom Selleck to play Indiana Jones....and then decided to ask Harrison Ford. Michael Jordan made his high school basketball team as a backup. Does anyone now question Harrison Ford as Indiana Jones or Michael Jordan as a basketball player?
Put simply...everything happens for a reason and in the end everything falls into place as it should. Being a first choice means nothing...