First Date. help?

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First Date. help?
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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:51am

k so this girl gave me her number while i was at work (which i was suprised at b/c she was REALLY pretty)


so anyway i havn't been on a date in forever

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 2:34am

 Z

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:06am

BE and ACT like a man. Meaning, you must have integrity, you must be assertive, you must be able to satisfy and nurture her WOMANLY needs...



.. DO NOT do the say thing that ever other 'loser' does. NO DINNER or NO MOVIES. You may have some women SCREAM at the fact that I say this, and that's fine.




Amen to that. To that I will add, be dominant. Dominate the woman. By dominate I don't mean getting her down on all fours with you standing next to her with one foot on the ground and the other on her back. A dominating personality is calm, confident (to the point of cocky but short of arrogance), very assertive, unapologetic .. Her feminist conditioning will cause her to think "how dare he.." but instinctually she will be attracted to you. Also, if she is very attractive, don't ever ever compliment her on looks. I can't stress this enough. If anything, find a flaw ("Your hair could look nicer this way.."), but not until the end. If you are talking to her face to face, don't keep scanning her face -- forehead to chin and up. That's disturbing to some people. Look her in the eye, don't stare, and hold the gaze.



ALWAYS remember - women are the weaker sex. They know it, and despite what they tell you, they are NOT independent and they are not looking for their equal. They are looking for strength, dominance and eventually reliance. Instinctively women associate these things with height. So if you are tall you have a natural advantage. But there are lots of tall wussy men out there who fall flat the moment they open their mouths. And lastly, if you are just a nice, sweet guy, she won't dislike you for it, but it's unlikely your seeds will make it inside her. With or without cover.



OK, too much info for a first date. :) Good luck.



ps: forgot to mention -- be respectful.



Edited 11/26/2007 11:43 am ET by hillaryh8er
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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:48pm

Oooh man.

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:11pm
thanks guys
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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:33pm

Poor kid!


Its a first date guys, and a kid who cant order a drink yet!


Be yourself, be comfortable. If she gave you her number, it is because she likes you already, don't change a thing . . just be yourself.


This is not rocket science. (-: She is a person, a normal human being just like you. I did however agree on the movie thing. I like to be able to talk on a first date . . so I pick places that make that possible.

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 5:08pm

>>I'm going to assume that you know a bit about the MM or David

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 5:38pm

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 7:07pm

Welcome to the board, Chris.

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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 7:30am

I would definitely take zlibby's advice, do something different, us women love something new and exciting and definitely not the old standby.


But under no circumstances should you tell her a negative about her like "Your hair would look better this

Smile,

Deirdre

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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:48am

Ok, I don't think I articulated myself very well (and I contradicted myself!).

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