Flakes!!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Flakes!!
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Fri, 11-09-2012 - 9:47pm

I hate it when someone keeps you hanging on plans, then cancels 95% of the time!  I hate to say it, but I wonder if anyone means what they say anymore.  

I just had to vent before I say something I shouldn't to someone! 

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Registered: 06-03-2009
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 2:38am

What's worse is these constant flakes usually go off the deep end when someone flakes on them.  As if they've earned the right to be peeved lol.

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Registered: 02-08-2011
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 9:34am

Yes, if someone flakes 95% of the time, you can't trust what they say. But the question that comes to mind is why are you clinging to them for 5% results? If you keep hanging on and hoping for a different result from someone who keeps doing the same bad behavior, you also will have to be mad at yourself too for continually putting yourself in the same situation.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 10:29am

Oh, trust me- I'm not clinging to her.  She drives me crazy a lot of the time.  We only usually hang out on Thursdays because it's a tradition- it's just assumed we have plans that night.  I enjoy going out then, but not necessarily with her (although sometimes I do- depends on her attitude).  I never attempt to make plans with her.  She always asks me.  I expect her to flake, but she usually does it early in the day, not at 8:30 when I have to text and ask if she knows if she can go or not.  She used to be really reliable, and that's what I liked about her.  She hasn't been the past year or so, and I know it's not just with me. 

Thanks for the support, LBW.  I don't ever cancel unless I absolutely have to, but if I did, I don't think she'd be upset about it.  I have another friend who flakes regularly that I haven't seen in forever who gets really upset if she doesn't get her way.  It's one of the reasons why I don't make plans with her anymore.

 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 7:39pm
That's awful! My friend just always says she's sick, one of her kids is sick, or her husband is sick. No one is sick that much! She knows I can't say anything if she says it's one of her kids. What bugs me the most is that it seems like she always makes plans she knows she'll have to cancel. I'd rather her ask me to go out at the last minute than cancel at the last minute.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 7:41pm

Oh dear, this is my all time worst pet peeve. I ended a f'ship over this very thing ions ago. So glad I did! Kinda makes you feel sh*tty, doesn't it? It did me! The best part was, this person would actually TELL me after the fact, what she did on the night we were supposed to hang out!? Who does that!?

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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 7:45pm

This girl would only hang out with a group of girls if she had absolutely no other options. If something came up that could potentially involve her meeting a guy, she'd cancel every time. She may have well had a sign around her neck that read: DESPERATE!  I think I'd have preferred she lie and say she was sick, ha!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 1:29am

  That is why I go places alone.  I depend on myself.  I come and go as I please.  Much better than the nerve racking wait for someone else to appear.

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