Flings and Open Relationships
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| Tue, 04-17-2007 - 8:33pm |
This is sort of 2 separate questions, but they're somewhat interlinked. First off, I've been thinking about relationships and why I don't want them. Some of it has to do with that I don't necessarily desire to put all the time, money and effort into dating her, building the relationship. Some of it has to do with the fact that I don't want to put up with the inevitable fights and drama that comes with every relationship, nor the heartbreak and breakup that probably 99.9% of relationships end in.
But the biggest reason I don't want a relationship is because I don't want to be monogamous. The idea of spending all that time with only 1 girl isn't all that attractive. I'd rather have just casual hookups, ONSs, FWBs, and so forth, but a lot of you have said that doesn't seem like a feasible option in my foreseeable future. So I was wondering if "flings" and "open relationships" were a feasible alternative.
First off, I'm not quite exactly sure what a "fling" is. Is a fling just a really short, really fast relationship? Because honestly, I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a girl if it was only for a few weeks and I could just move onto someone else afterwards. If that's the case, how do you have a fling?
Second of all, what does it take to have an "open relationship." Because I honestly wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a girl so much as long I was still free to pursue other sexual opportunities. So I'm just wondering, as women, what would it take for you to be okay with a man you were in a relationship with sleeping with other women?

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<<< if you had spent enough time looking for anonymous sex as you have "anonymous" advice here, you would have gotten laid a long time ago.>>>
OMG - coffee....through the nose....all over the keyboard.
I can't resist one more response.
Have you never heard the phrase "You don't look at the mantelpiece when you're poking the fire?"
>>>I can't resist one more response.
Have you never heard the phrase "You don't look at the mantelpiece when you're poking the fire?"<<<
No. What does it mean?
Sounds to me like you've already tried everything and with no success. I think its time to hang it up for a bit.
I think the best option for you is online porn and masturbation.
Edited 4/25/2007 11:58 am ET by cl214
good luck
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I gotta know, where do you go to school? 'Cause where I go to school, I see NO girls who are like this... most of them are in sweats or jeans and t-shirts. The ones who are dressed nicely, are usually in internships or some other professional part of their studies.
"I mean, you probably think all men are just horny buffoons, but it really does hurt."
Not all men... but those horny buffoons have it basically tattooed on their foreheads, so we know to run... quickly. And in the other direction. Kinda like the man who has the shirt, "I am a bomb technician. If you see me running, try to keep up."
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