Flirting

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Flirting
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Tue, 09-03-2013 - 8:57pm
How good are you at it? I find the more positive feedback I get (attention), the better I get. This morning, I had to drop off something at the high school for another teacher. I didn't know where her room was, so an admin offered to take it for me. Let me tell ya, I wanted to rip this guy's clothes off. There was just something about him that was just yummy. There weren't many words exchanged- just him asking me who it was for, and who it was from, but there was definitely something going on. The smile. The eye contact. Sometimes, that's all it takes. If we had encountered each other in another setting, there definitely would have been flirting. If I could give one piece of flirting advice, it would be to make eye contact, look up through your eyelashes, and say hi like you mean it. Most men will just take it from there.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 09-03-2013 - 10:31pm

If I"m comfortable with someone then I can flirt pretty well--I have a hard time doing it with a stranger, unless he is coming onto me first.  I guess I am nervous that it won't be reciprocated & I'll make a fool of myself.  There's a guy in my dance class who is married but I don't know what's going on w/ his DW cause he constantly goes out weekend nights w/o her--several people think he's having an affair, but maybe he's all talk & no action, if you know what I mean.  But we constantly flirt & say racy things to each other in class.  There aren't many people I would do that with, but I don't really take it seriously because I assume it won't go anywhere--maybe that's why I can do it cause it's like a game.  If it was a guy I really wanted to get together with, I'd probably be more nervous.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: shywon
Wed, 09-04-2013 - 10:56am

I can be a huge flirt and feel I'm quite adept but I have to be feeling great about myself, good about what I'm wearing, having a good hair day, etc.  For instance, I was not about any flirting Monday when I darted in and out of Walmart for some grocery items.  Lord, I couldn't wait to get out of there . . . Whew, I looked rough ;)

Find yourself a good reason to go back to the High School at some juncture.  Flirt it up honey.  Werk!

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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: shywon
Wed, 09-04-2013 - 6:44pm

I really like flirting, although I am not sure I'd say I am good at it.  I need to like my outfit and hair, have a half glass of wine, and I am good to go!  It's even fun to practice with say, bartenders, when you know you're both flirting just for entertainment.  

Shy - maybe you can find a reason to follow up with him about something!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Wed, 09-04-2013 - 7:00pm
You know what sucks? I'd probably see him every Friday night while working the gate at football games if an arrogant behind of a HS principal hadn't fired me from the job last year because someone said I was cranky one night. Yeah....I'm still bitter about that one! I'm with you- I am much better about it when I'm feeling confident. Confident + alcohol and I'm awesome at it!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: musiclover12
Wed, 09-04-2013 - 8:09pm

Well you could still go to the football games & since you wouldn't be working, you'd have more time to talk to him.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Wed, 09-04-2013 - 8:44pm
I really have no interest in football, to be honest. I was just doing it for the money. Besides, the whole athletic department has left a sour taste in my mouth. I don't want to go near them!
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Registered: 01-02-2012
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 09-09-2013 - 8:15am

I am not good at it. On the contrary, I am rubbish at it.... But trying... It works best when I  feel "safe" and comfy with the guy in question. However, I am always happily chatting with people in stores etc, well - the ones who work there anyway. :-) 

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Registered: 09-11-2013
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 09-13-2013 - 4:27pm
I think I am decent at flirting but definitely have to be confident at the time - cute outfit with perfect hair and make up. I get to dress up for work and enjoy my morning stroll into the local coffee house or lunch with the girls.