Flirting 101

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Registered: 06-21-2005
Flirting 101
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 3:34pm

Hey Everyone!

I have a question... how much flirting is too much?

I am struggling lately because I am seeing this new guy, we've only gone out once but tons of text messages have been exchanged (I really wish texting didn't exist!) and all of a sudden I am skiddish about innocent flirting. I've always been good at flirting, double entendres, jokes, body language. But now I am so worried that if I elude to sex or being sexual or liking him "like that".... he knows that I do... then I will look cheap and easy. I don't want to seem easy and I don't want him to think that I am going to put out on the second date because that certaintly is not my intention. I also don't want to be a tease and lead him to believe something is going to happen that is now. Ugh.... so I guess my question is how much flirting is too much?

Example: He told me he got a sunburn. I said that I could do something to make his sunburn feel better. And he said that alone time with me would make it feel better... me and some aloe. Yikes it was all fun and good but does he really think that something really is going to happen. I don't know I'm being so silly about this.

Thanks folks!

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Registered: 03-16-2007
In reply to: tigarlily22
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 4:48pm
You can always flirt without eluding to sex. I would say that you probably shouldn't say anything that you don't really plan to do. Guys are often very literal and may be upset to find out that you weren't actually serious about giving him a full on rub down, alone, with some aloe. It's totally possible to flirt without talking about sex, and it leaves a little mystery to you so the guy will be more intrigued. Try that next time.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: tigarlily22
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 4:53pm

I know exactly what you mean, and I've realized recently that that is exactly why I have trouble flirting with men now.