flirting faux pas?

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Registered: 05-13-2003
flirting faux pas?
Sat, 10-11-2003 - 6:42am
I have spent the entire night trying to figure this guy out. My assitant manager is flirting with me, i think? He is very friendly and lingers around me constantly. He tries to find out information about me through conversation and acts very interested in what i have to say. He is about 10 years older but i still find him very attractive. Is he just flirting with me to boost his ego or is it genuine? I don't want to make a complete fool of myself by flirting back or coming on too strong.
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Registered: 07-05-2003
Sat, 10-11-2003 - 7:07am
Flirting is common behaviour for certain people and often "meaningless." I've encountered bosses, married men, men with girlfriends who flirt with women - and the intention was harmless, playful fun - not a sign of attraction or a desire to start a relationship/affair.

If a man is interested in dating you - he will ask you out on a date. Don't read too much into simple flirting. Your assistant manager might be attracted to you - but he might not be. Is there a policy against fraternization in your company? Many companies do not allow co-workers to date. Also, as your superiour - your boss might be treading on dangerous ground if he crosses the line with his flirting.


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Registered: 08-07-2003
Sat, 10-11-2003 - 8:11am
I agree w/jhoover - given that he is your supervisor, it is inappropriate for him to come on to you. He is putting you in a terrible position. I would respond by being friendly but professional, and hopefully he'll get the hint.

Here's another possibility - maybe he's just trying to get to know you as an employee? You say he asks about you and is interested in what you have to say - well, those are things that a good boss will do. I would just assume that that is what's going on and respond accordingly. Anything else could spell big trouble - for both of you.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-11-2003 - 9:09am
Hmmm - wanna be involved in a harassment lawsuit? No - then stay away. A man who is genuinely interested in a relationship with you - not just sex - will court you like a lady - he will approach you in a friendly but respectful way and ask you out in advance on a proper date - anything else is really irrelevant and here potentially harmful unless you are ready to get involved in complicated and potentially improper behavior on his part. Look elsewhere for a boyfriend and don't waste your time wondering whether he thinks you're cute - if he does - cool - nice little ego boost - but there are more important things in life.