Football is evil

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Football is evil
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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 7:10pm

I would just like to say that football is evil.


Last night, I had to wait for San Francisco to beat Denver before we could get going for NYE.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 12:59pm

I think such wide extremes between choices in a situation like this is a bit ridiculous. You're going to have to learn it or leave him? That doesnt make sense. Why not just enjoy the sport for what it is...something he loves? You dont have to like it, watch it, or even understand to appreciate that just like your music, books, or scrapbooking, sports are a hobby (watching and playing). Neither partner should be forced to give up something they love because the other partner thinks they're a fanatic about it. Yes people should be priority over hobbies but this is another one of those things that take communication. If something like a hobby gets in the way of the relationship, its not the hobby or the person...its a breakdown in communication.

Fanatic is not equal to addicted by the way. Addiction to something is a whole other level.

JMHO

Ruby

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 1:16pm
I agree with you in this sense, any sort of hobby can overtake a person and if you are in a relationship it's all about balancing things out and compromising. I don't think either person in the relationship is always going to like what the other person likes but the hobby doens't have to be a top priority over the other person. For me no matter what the hobby or interest, if I feel that it's being put as too much of a priority over me then I will say something. Personally though I still wouldn't date a sports fanatic because i've tried to learn to be ok with watching sports with my ex boyfriends, but in all honesty I just can't pretend to be interested no matter how hard I try. I can't even sit for 15 minutes and watch a football game let alone basketball or baseball which are even more boring to me. I'm not much of a TV person in general (except watching movies) and like to be out doing things or just talking, reading or playing games at home so I really do need to be with a guy who watches only a little bit to no TV at all or else it might bug me too much if I was with a couch potato. I tend to have TV ADD more than most people I know. I would rather have a boyfriend who is way into surfing or snowboarding or playing sports and has an obsession with that than being with someone who has an obsession with watching too much sports or TV.
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Registered: 07-02-2006
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 5:52pm

I agree that a balance is required and communication is essential, but it is failing with my brother and I can't cut him out of my life. It's bad enough that football comes before family for him, but if I'm there, I can't even have a conversation with someone else in the room because it disturbs his concentration/enjoyment of the game. He knows that I'm not interested in watching 3 hours of football in silence when it is family time, like my only visit for the year (at Thanksgiving)to his place. Of course, his argument is that watching football IS family time, despite the fact that I'm not interested or enjoying watching a game on TV in silence.

So, I'm curious to see how and what the originator of this post ends up having to deal with, esp in regards to her birthday and SuperBowl Sunday. After all, their New Year's plans were offset by a football game, which was not to her liking.

Compromise via communication is key to any relationship, but it depends on how much both parties value the relationship.

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 9:29pm

I'm interested to see how it turns out as well.

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Registered: 07-02-2006
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 9:57pm
Well, that doesn't sound nearly as bad as I had first thought! Good for you - you might have more hope than I initially thought! Good luck and keep us posted if you can!

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