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forgive and forget?
| Sun, 12-25-2011 - 10:42pm |
so about 5 years ago there is this girl I was just friends with for about a year. At some point we went out on a couple dates. On the second date I drove us about 45 minutes to see a band play. it went ok until the end of the night when she very politely asked me if I wouldn't mind if she stayed there with some friends. And I ended up making that seemingly endless drive home alone....also way before this she called me up one night drunk and crying at 2 am. She was sitting in the middle of a traffic lane with a flat and needless to say I went there and changed her tire and got her out of there before the cops showed up.
Well I soon thereafter learned that she was never interested in me. She just used me to get a ride when she needed a ride and get her out of jams because she knew I would come. This has left me somewhat scarred and weary of women.
So I'm going to see her at a friends party tomorrow and I'm hoping for some advice on wether I should forgive and forget or not give her the time of day. Any thoughts?
Well I soon thereafter learned that she was never interested in me. She just used me to get a ride when she needed a ride and get her out of jams because she knew I would come. This has left me somewhat scarred and weary of women.
So I'm going to see her at a friends party tomorrow and I'm hoping for some advice on wether I should forgive and forget or not give her the time of day. Any thoughts?
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I had a similiar experience with a guy like you.
We hang out as friends and I have told him many times that I like him as a friend only. I thought he understood.
Beautiful response to this guy, JT.
The bottom line is that you can put aside your bitterness toward her and ask her nicely what happened or you can continue to be wounded over it. I personally would choose to heal.
Wow..That was really good advice for the OP and I agree.. If you dont realize that you met someone for a reason and learn the hard lessons and take advice and learn from it you are going to have to keep re learning the lessons until you get it ..Unfortunately most people dont ever get it and keep repeating the same patterns over and over.. and keep making the same mistakes..
I would take the high road and say hello to her and then move on to the other guests and try to have a good time..
My short answer: forgive and forget.
You do indeed seem to have been taken seriously.
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