FREEDOM...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
FREEDOM...
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Wed, 06-18-2003 - 9:53am
Being single, its so EASY to make plans to go away. And since I have my independance and confidence, I am not afraid to do it. Yesterday, (while I should have been writing a speech) I decided to go away the last w/end of this month. Then I decided to go to this a festival next month after our camping trip...my sister was the one who mentioned it but I went to buy tickets she backed out. I know she wants to go but she can't really afford it and her husband would be mad. Sometimes I wonder if I really want a r/ship. This summer is going to be so fantastic - I may go to Boston for a week or on a bicycle adventure in Aug (haven't decided yet). And I just got back from Hawaii a couple of months ago. If I weren't single, there is NO WAY I'd be doing all that travelling. Even if we did travel, there would be compromises to be made or I would have to "discuss" it instead of jumping on the opportunities when they arise.

So do you feel free? What do you do with your freedom?

Go.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: goroque
Wed, 06-18-2003 - 10:40am
Sounds great! I wish I could travel that much. I'm tied down by two kitties and a mortgage. Since I know I'll be changing jobs this summer or perhaps early in the fall (I just love waiting for the federal government to decide it's ok for me to officially be employed), I can't plan any trips for longer than a weekend, since I don't know if I'll have any vacation time available. However, I do expect to make it to the Jersey shore for a weekend or two this summer, but I think that's the best I can expect to do.

I feel like I have much more freedom when it comes to planning last minute, one day (or evening events), since I don't really have anyone to answer to, and no work obligations preventing me from taking advantage of that type of opportunity.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: goroque
Wed, 06-18-2003 - 12:03pm
I tend to feel freer when I am in a relationship - I am freer to spend time alone without internal pressure to be out there meeting someone and part of the fun for me on vacations is planning with someone - I do like travelling alone - to club med for example - but I don't drive and also do not feel comfortable travelling alone in a foreign country not at a resort - I wouldn't feel safe. I am impressed with all your plans - have a blast!! I likely would not be involved in a relationship if I saw it as a "non-free" state or a state of placing unreasonable restrictions on my freedom.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: goroque
Wed, 06-18-2003 - 12:55pm
I am only limited by money right now. I do feel free to do whatever I want, expecially in the summer, as long as I can afford it. My Disney trip is going to be more expensive than I originally planned since I'm staying longer, but I think it'll be worth it!

I hope you have fun on your trips. I wish I could go with you too. I thought about it, and I really do want to do this for my sister since we don't get to spend much time together. That, and my first choice for a vacation would be Disney anyway! I'm just a big kid!

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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: goroque
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 6:41pm
What freedom? I am single, but I can't afford to take trips whenever I feel like it. And even if I could afford it, I would have to request time off from my job.

Its not an issue of freedom - its a financial issue for me.

Some people stereotype us single people as being carefree and having all this freedom. I don't feel that way at all. I don't consider myself carefree, I have bills to pay, I have to work and put a roof over my head and all that.