friday nights

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Registered: 04-03-2003
friday nights
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Fri, 07-18-2003 - 6:05pm
oh yea another friday night to kick off these boring weekends alone, no paycheck till next week...no money and i'm tired of hearing about my friend and her b/f going on their long romantic weekend in the bahama's heck even my guy friends have something special planned for their g/f, i'm so tired of feeling left out and having to hang out with myself i mean i love myslef but enough is enough it's been 7 months of this crap why am i always the one with noone. i had to go see the fourth of july fireworks alone watching all the couples cuddling, why am i not good enough to have someone i'm tired of hope it's killing me. sorry this is just the way i feel everytime the weekend comes to much time to think naqd be alone that my venting thanks for listening

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 7:24pm
It sounds like you should focus on trying to meet more friends. If you have other people to hang out with on the weekends you might not feel so depressed about not dating anyone. It sounds like you're more lonely than anything else, so perhaps you should just find people to spend time with on the weekends. Maybe then you won't dwell on being single and won't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. I could understand if it's an occasional thing, since we all go through those sorts of feelings occasionally, but it sounds like you feel this way every weekend. You really need to find a way to enjoy your life without feeling like you need to be in a relationship.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 8:04pm
I am working tonight. Last night I worked till 10 and tomorrow I likely will work from 9AM-9PM - yes, I am paid well for it, and yes I signed up for it, but it doesn't change the fact that it sucks sometimes to be a work drone. Indeed, my only treat tonight was a microwaved chocolate chip pop tart (yum!). So, yes, it is sometimes frustrating not to be dating anyone special, but even if you are, if you have to work it really doesn't help . . .. so, it will be ok and thanks for listening to me vent!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 8:41pm
I know exactly how you feel. It used to get me down too, but I'm used to spending the weekends with myself. I don't have single friends, and I don't plan things with my married/mom friends because I get flaked on. I've just come to accept that it's a part of life.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 8:42pm
Darn you, Deena! Now I want chocolate, and I've been SOOOO good today!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 9:09pm
Hey - you can blame me for a lot but I will not - I repeat will not - take responsibility for your chocolate weakness - I would never ever accuse you of the same - never!! We have a lot of candy around the office and I am known as the constant chocoholic - indeed, I work next door to Teuschers which has the best champagne truffles in the world - I mean it - I used to get one (about $2 each) after any bad or disappointing blind lunch date - just one - they are better than sex I tell ya!!

So anyway, you put the pop tart in the microwave so the chocolate filling gets all gooey and melty . . . . oops - did it again - I am so mean to you!! Just try a 12 step program - 12 steps to the refrigerator, remove ben and jerrys fudge truffle core ice cream and . . .

-YFC- (Your Fellow Chocoholic)

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 10:04pm
I have learned that when I get a craving, I should not fight it. Just go with it. I have just finished a chocolate shake (yum yum) and now I'm satisfied. I'm still okay with my calories for the day, too!

But, of course, now I'll want pop tarts when I go grocery shopping tomorrow!

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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 10:28pm
lol you guys are two funny, i don't get chocolate cravings anymore cuz i end up with a breakout shortly after i eat it....but i did go out and buy i big old bag of shrimp about two pounds worth talk about an awesome guilt free snack=)
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 11:09pm
Allergic to chocolate?? How awful! How do you cope???

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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 2:01am
Hi Trinity8058,

I fully understand where you are coming from. I have been sitting home this evening and many other evenings with the same feelings. There are not any hang-outs to speak of in my area- so it is hard to meet people when there is no where to go to meet them, plus I am 43 years old - single again for the past year. I was also just diagnosed with lung cancer so that has not helped with my emotions either. I am receiving good medical care for that.

I would have to say that we are two lonely people, I am sure there are others out there? It is hard to have good thoughts when it seems like so much negativity keeps jumping in your face. I have a couple of good friends - but they always seem to be doing other things too, or going out on a date......and thus we sit home on our weekends off from work. There has to be more to life than this,,,,,,,,quite frankly I am sick of it all.

Good luck to you.......sorry I had to dump my emotions out too.

sundown41

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Registered: 05-01-2003
In reply to: trinity8058
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 7:26am
7 Months?....HA!....Try 7 YEARS!

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