Friend with benefits?

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Registered: 05-11-2006
Friend with benefits?
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:21pm

I have a guy friend who I hang out with all the time. We hook up occasionally, but sleep in the same bed pretty often. He says he doesn't want to be an official couple. We both occasionally date others, and my friends are always trying to set me up with people, but he is great and I really don't like anyone but him.

What should I do?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:22pm
Yes I think so! For him! You need to communicate with him seriously.......otherwise, you just kinda waste your time your emotions there....i think....
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:41pm

This sounds like a perfect formula for a broken heart - yours. If he's made it clear that he doesn't want to be a couple, then believe him. You could spend months or years waiting for him to change his mind, and maybe miss someone else who is wonderful while you're waiting and so caught up with this guy.

Unless you're ok being just a FWB, I'd say run.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:49pm

I completely agree.


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Registered: 04-13-2006
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 4:41am

I have been a friend with beenfits and either way it never works out...I am the kind of person who doesnt like to admit that something is impossible but being friends with benefits and not having one of the people get emotionally invovled is next to impossible...one of the people always gets attached to the other. I would say just try to see if he is feeling the same, and if not, cut bait and run. I have been in your position and it was nothing more than self abuse...I was in love and she wasnt and we kept having hollow sex and it did nothing but made me depressed 24/7 but I was liked her so much that I couldnt stop...a never ending cycle.

If it is not heading somewhere...end it ASAP!