The friend zone again
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|Tue, 08-06-2013 - 4:15pm|
Earlier this year, as you guys know, I met a guy, he asked me to go to a dance and then we were together at another event. Then I got the email that he liked me only as a friend and was dating someone else.
So I have been going to this outdoor salsa dancing for 3 weeks now. I found out about it through a meetup group. the guy who is the organizer described himself as a "fun loving lawyer" so the 1st night I went, I introduced myself to him as another fun loving lawyer. The 2nd week we talked a little more and he gave me hugs hello & goodbye. The nights start with a lesson and he starts out dancing with me, but the teacher makes everyone rotate partners. So this week is the 3rd week--we ended up dancing more together at the end of the night and practicing. He's much more of a beginner than I am and he thanks me for being patient and willing to practice with him. So then he says "Do you have to go right home? Want to hang out?" It took forever to actually get out of the park where the dance is held cause he's like Mr. Social who knows everyone and keeps saying hi and talking to people--but he does introduce me to everyone. so I was thinking hey, maybe he likes me. I work in a very yuppie neighborhood and most of the places are very upscale restaurants--so we ended up in a pizza place--not exactly dressed fancy. We talked for a while--he's very funny and we have a lot in common besides being lawyers. then he throws in that he started dating someone and has no idea where it will go--well that was definitely not something that I wanted to hear. I thought it might be a long shot since I figured out right away that I'm older than him--I thought 10 yrs, but it's actually 8 yrs (he doesn't know how old I am). Even if we don't date, I still want to keep him as a friend because he is a fun nice guy and it would be fun to be with him--but it sure would be nice if he was interested. Objectively I don't even know if we would be a match, but it would just be nice to be the object of someone's affection.