Friends with Benefits????
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Friends with Benefits????
| Thu, 07-17-2003 - 5:24pm |
So confused!!! Started seeing a guy about 3 months ago, it was great for the first 6 weeks or so, then I turned off for whatever reason... The sex was always good but I didn't want to be with him in any other way so I broke it off. Today he asked if we could get together and just have sex every couple of weeks. I love the thought but he was pretty hung up on me and I hurt him pretty bad when I broke it off. I think that having a friend like that would allow me the freedom of not worrying about finding Mr. Right. I'm 40 years old and definately in my sexual prime. I want a relationship but not now and not with my buddy. However, I like the thought of getting together with him every couple of weeks and just going for it. He says he can do it without any resentment and knows that it will end one day. I say fine I know I'd be able to do it without ever looking back but I don't want to hurt him... Any advice for me today???
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Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com
No calling the day after to "hang out" - so that nobody gets confused about "wanting to be together" except in bed.
No "kissing" at all - no making out, no "lovey-dovey" activity in public. Imean, you might go somewhere together knowing that at the end of the night if nobody has caught you eye you have a "guaranteed piece" - but nothing should indicate to those in public that you're "together" except as friends.
No "sleeping over" - so that nobody gets confused by the offer/requirement to offer eggs/bacon/juice the next am.
Whatever "rules" would apply to your situation - make them, and then YOU stick to them even when YOU wish YOU didn't have to....because that is quite likely to be the result.
Generally, it's the person who says "I'm all about sex with no emotional involvement" that ends up getting emotionally involved and attached. And the person gets up from calling at 2am and 'getting some' - to go home because the next day they have a date and want to get some sleep - and you're crushed beyond belief.
Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com