Friends with Co-workers!

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Registered: 07-03-2005
Friends with Co-workers!
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:51am

isn't always the best idea - unless you are really good at letting things roll off your back... not me!

my girlfriend has worked with our boss (who was just promoted a year ago and use to be on her/our level before that) for 9 years and so they are REALLY good friends. Which in a small group like our little accounting dept. works great for all of us (6) to be friendly with each other... but they go walking together after work... eat dinner together sometimes... go to breakfast after walking on Sat./Sun. mornings... do things together all the time... and not only does it make me curious if her raises/bonus reflect their friendship but just like today she got pulled in there and the door shut... when she came out I emailed her jokingly saying "are you in trouble or did he revise your review" we had reviews yesterday... she replied but avoided what I was OBVIOUSLY getting at! So... she apparently didn't want me to know what was discussed. Just makes me think the friendship between her and I is not nearly as strong as the bond those two have.

Just odd to me!

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 12:57pm

***So... she apparently didn't want me to know what was discussed***

Frankly, it's not any of your business. I am very good friends with one guy at work but we never discuss performance appraisals or what goes on between us and the boss. That's personal and, in my opinion, inappropriate to discuss. Maybe she was in trouble - you have no idea. Just because she and the boss are friends, that doesn't mean that the boss is going to give her more money or treat her differently. You must nor respect them very much if you think that is a possibility.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 1:38pm
Is there anything you can do about it anyway? Probably not. It's going to be a lot easier on you if you just assume the best and continue to do your job well and maintain the relationships you have.
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Registered: 07-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 2:15pm

ahh you're so kind! :)

I guess since you don't know how close this girl and I are - you didn't know your response wouldn't apply! It's okay!

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Registered: 07-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 2:17pm
yeah - that's probably true. I guess since I am such an open book and don't feel all that stuff needs to be super secret other's might. I have one girlfriend is an OPEN book regarding her families finances but I know alot of people are uptight about discussing that stuff... so... to each their own. I've had no choice but to just keep doing my job and keep on keeping on! ;)
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 3:06pm

My matter-of-fact tone is not meant to be insulting. I hope that you know that about my posts.

If I misunderstood the situation with you and these girls, then better explain so that I can operate on the proper asssumptions. If I make a wrong assumption, then set me straight.

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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 6:45pm

My coworkers are the only people I know here (besides you), so if I want friends, it has to be them.