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| Mon, 11-28-2005 - 3:57pm |
Hi all! Hope you had a great Thanksgiving!
Here's my situation. My very good friend's husband has started hitting on me, in a more than freindly way. When I'm over at their house, he doesn't say much at all and usually I'm there when he's not so it's no big deal. The problem comes when we're out in a group together (he's in a band- of course, dang musicians!) so I'll go along with my friend and a group once in a while and we've all hung out for years with no problem. But lately he's started saying things to me like "Lesley, explain to me how it's possible you're single? I don't understand how someone as attractive, smart, (blah blah) as you doesn't have a husband." (I don't understand it either, but that's beside the point!) And he'll just go on and on and then like lean over and say it in my ear or put his hand on my leg while he's talking to me. I always immediately push him away or start talking to someone else and I have no doubt it's the alcohol that encourages this but I don't quite know how to handle it past that. Then, this morning I check my email and he's sent me some poem about beauty transcending light and darkness and blah blah blah ( like I said, dang musicicans) and I don't know what to do. He's sent emails in the past regarding band shows but nothing like this.
Any ideas? I keep just thinking if I ignore and avoid him it will stop but maybe I just can't go out with my friend anymore either. Which sucks because I love her and we have a great time.

I think your best course of action is to avoid him as much as possible when you do go out with your friend. Sit at the other end of the table, things like that.
As for the email, it's probably best to ignore it but I'd be tempted to respond saying something like, "lovely poem. You should send it to your wife."
Sheri
Ick.