Friends only

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Friends only
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Fri, 04-21-2006 - 9:22pm

Hey Ya'lls

I think most if not all of us have friends of the opposite sex. I know a few couples who started out as friends and are in serious relationships out. On the other hand, like me for example, have a few female friends and nothing has ever materialized. My question is what are some of your reasons/experiences why you only remain friends with someone of the opposite sex(other than you're already in a relationship, that one is pretty obvious...haha)?

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Tom

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Registered: 10-08-2003
In reply to: tst07
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 9:46pm
Remain friends and not date? Or just stay friends? Usually the guy friends that I have start out as friends and if more progresses it should happen naturally. I have never had that. Usually when I get in the frame of mind that he is just a friend, it's kind of hard to change for me. And becoming more changes the dynamics of the relationship. I think. I may be wrong since I can't remember if I have ever been friends and then started dating a guy.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: tst07
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:12pm
either because there i no phyical attraction but I liked their peronality. Sometime they are attractive, I like their company but I know we have a clash in values... so wont work a GF - BF
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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: tst07
Sat, 04-22-2006 - 9:07am

I have a few guy friends who I simply don't have "those" kind of feelings for.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: tst07
Sun, 04-23-2006 - 3:30pm

Because I don't want to have sex with them, and that's the bottom line.


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Registered: 09-10-2004
In reply to: tst07
Sun, 04-23-2006 - 10:11pm

Totally agree with Stacey. For me there are some guys that I meet and goes straight into the friends category because they are either married or have partners or are way too young/old or you are just not interested or they are half the world away or you are always moving so you can't really start relationships.

Then there are guys that you meet and think, yeah this guy could work, so you become friends but then he never returns your feelings, so it never eventuates and so you just remain friends.