Froze Out

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Froze Out
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Sat, 12-01-2007 - 2:26am

I have chickened out on this one girl for a long time. There were some flirtings in the beginning, but things just died out, mostly because of my insecurities. Right now, I do not even feel comfortable looking at her, and she does not look at me either. Tonight, I was watching a parade of guys walking over to talk to her, but no one tried to hit on her. So I thought "Why not me?"

A little background information: We met in coed volleyball, and she usually comes in with two or three guy friends, with whom I am somewhat acquainted. I caught her attention, I think, in one game when I waved at her fervently and told her to hit her hardest serve at me.

Once, I put out my hand to her, and when she reached out, as if to shake hands, I yanked her to sit next to me. Unfortunately she was not able to stay. I did not pursue it because at the time I did not want to look like I was clinging to her. A couple weeks later, she was smiling and saying hi to me, but I did not respond. That was because I was talking to some one else and did not really see her. I don't remember if I explained to her afterward and I am feeling bad for being rude ....

Do you guys need more info? What is your prognosis? She might have written me off as a wuss for she does not even try to look at me any more. Then, again, if no one is hitting on her, I might as well be the guy. If I am to restart the flirting, how should I proceed? Thanks.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: akt226
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 4:11pm

"NLP led me to other areas of psychology, and it taught me how to use 'body language & tonality ' to gain rapport with people."

Now that is interesting. What do you recommend?

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Registered: 10-09-2007
In reply to: akt226
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 6:03pm

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