In a funk

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In a funk
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:13pm

I hate stupid holidays that revolve around kissing.

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 6:06pm

That's a good way to describe it- "forgotten."

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 6:27pm

That's how I feel about V-day too!

Way to go. I am an avid runner too & tomorrow is our club resolution run at 10:00am :)

I have a small party to attend but will most likely leave early & go to bed early.

Jstbu

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 6:44pm

Ugh I'm totally in the funk. I've cried more the past month than my entire life combined. I broke up with an ex two months ago and have regretted it terribly since. We started talking again recently but he's been very hot and cold. Last Friday we saw each other and it was wonderful. I was finally smiling again. I thought he seemed open to us trying to work things out. On Thursday, he seemed to imply we could meet up tonight on New Years Eve. Well an email and two calls later and I haven't heard from him. It's obvious that he's not going to call me back and that I have ruined things for good with us. A broken heart on New Years. I wish we never broke up and that we were spending tonight together but that's not reality.

The funk is hard to emerge from, between the holidays and cold weather. I have spent so many hours paralyzed by pain the past few months, wishing I could change the past. But I can't and I don't have time to waste dwelling. It's a new year and I have to make a new beginning. We have to try to turn off those negative thoughts and pick overselves up and keep trucking! Good luck to all!!

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 6:53pm

I posted this on another board as well...

I have given up on married friends too for trying to do anything with me. I mean I understand they have responsibilities but it's like tere is no room for friends...especially single ones. I got so ticked the other day when I asked my girlfriend the other day who was in the car when I dropped off an ornament to her husband she says "oh yeh we went out with another couple you know who they are"...blah blah blah. I mean HELLO just because I don't have a man, can't you ask me to go out sometime too? It just kills me & then I try to get 2 married girlfriends together for a movie. NO MORE in 2006. I am so tired of being activity coordinator.

I mean I am in the age category where men are either separated, going through a divorce, addicted to something or in recovery or just plain unhealthy. After 3 coffee dates in the last week, I just give up. I am 40 & just feel life is over. I have been in therapy so long that now I just am starting to doubt if I can be helped.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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In reply to: cl_shywon
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 7:13pm

Ugh, I know exactly how this feels. I think sometimes it's gotten to the point where people around me have given up, as well. They think I'm the one doing something wrong and I'm too picky and that's why I'm single so they don't even bother to consider me.

I can't seem to count on anyone the way they can count on me, either. When I say I'll call at 5:30, I call at 5:30. When I say let's make plans for dinner, I make the plans. No one else seems to do this though. It's frustrating and I can only draw two conslusions: 1- there are just not that many reliable people in the world (or in my life, maybe) or 2- these people don't value their relationship with me. Depending on my mood, I choose one or the other to explain the behavior.

In about 3 hours I'm supposed to go out with a friend. Her husband (who I am less than crazy about) plays in a band and she says she wants me to go so she doesn't have to sit and watch him alone. I don't want to go and I'm probably going to call and tell her I can't. She might be a little upset but the thing is, she won't be there alone. Her wierdo husband will be there for her to kiss at midnight and all will be well with her world. If I'm there at midnight, I'll either have to sit and watch everyone or worry about protecting myself from some drunken, freak old-guy who's walking around with mistletoe and trying to kiss everyone.

Whew! That was a vent! Anyway, know how ya feel... I don't know if you partake in alcoholic beverages but if you do, this may not be a bad night to have a few!

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 8:11pm

I *use* to be a runner.. did 5 marathons. I saw you did Boston .. whoa.. congratulations! I went to undergrad school there and it was a great experience living there and seeing the marathon. Do you live in Boston?

I use to run around the Nike HQ campus here in the Portland, Oregon vicinity where I live.

Take care,
Mark

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 8:27pm

You can email me through ivillage...like you did before. Did ya notice how one post got up to over 100...let's not do that again.

I live on the West Coast. Boston was awesome & I have to say the epitome of my running career. I am now doing 1/2 marathons. I just placed in my new age category...1st! My next one is in Feb & I am hoping to be in the top 3 overall as the last one I was 4th overall.

Later.

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 8:54pm

Haha, that's what it is, Bunko! It just gets hard sometimes because I give so much to people in my life, when my friends are down/depressed/upset, I will sit and listen to them while they cry and offer whatever advice I can, but with some of them, when the tables are turned, it's like "you bring this on yourself" or, my personal favorite, "why don't you just get over it?"

I'm going to try to make tomorrow a better day and I'm just going to be in my funk tonight and not even care. My parents and brother and his wife are downstairs playing games and eating and everything and EVERYONE asked me "what's wrong with you?" and I am absolutely exhausted. If it was a little later, I'd be going to bed and my brother was the last person to ask me in about 15 minutes and I just yelled "I'M TIRED!" and my sister-in-law yelled back "well then go upstairs!" (I live at home). I know I'm getting off subject but yeah, I guess I'm just a Debbie Downer tonight :)

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 9:07pm

I am in the same funk! I actually have plans to go to a party in about an hour with another single girlfriend, and I'm trying hard to work up the motivation to go. (I'm thankful to have at least one single friend -- I didn't a year ago, and I had to go out and seek new girls to hang with because I, too, was tired of being the third wheel to all my married friends).

For me, I miss my ex-bf this time of year. Past holiday memories from 5 years together, plus his b-day is in January. I know I am better off without him, but we still had wonderful times together and I will always love him -- and I wonder if I will ever really feel like that again with someone. I think so, but patience is difficult in the meantime.

I guess I am trying to focus on the future, and the hope that the new year will be a better one. I am doing everything I know how to do to make my life better, surround myself with good people and to combat the general loneliness I feel.

So, happy new year to all. My the new year truly be happy for all of us and full of new adventures and wonderful people.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 11:05pm

Okay, well, with Bunko, you really do have to have a certain number (a multiple of 4), but she could have at least said she could remember you if they needed a sub sometime.