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| Mon, 04-10-2006 - 10:39am |
Hello all!
I have a question for all you single men and woman out there. Before I ask my question, I have a few things to say. I am a 27 year old single woman. When I was younger, and inexperienced in the world of dating, I sought advice for rules of dating (e.g. “Should we go dutch on the first date?”; “How long should I wait to call him after the first date?”; “How long should I wait before I kiss him?”) Now, as a woman approaching 30, I am beyond the games; I know what I want in a man and I don’t want to settle for less than that. However, I’ve found myself back in that place where I’m asking one of those questions. I'm asking the question because I genuinely need help! I've been out of the dating loop for a while. So, here’s my situation and my question.
I met a guy over the weekend. He seemed nice enough (they all do in the beginning). I noticed him staring before he actually approached me. Whenever someone is staring at me, I do what comes naturally for me, I say "Hello." After he was busted, he walked over to me. His approach was clever; he asked me who my auto insurance provider is. Coincidentally, he works for the same provider that I’m currently using. He introduced himself anyway, and asked me my name. He then asked me if I’m single. I said, “I’m single, but I date.” He asked me for my phone number. I told him that I’d take his. Normally, I would willingly give out my phone number and wait for the guy to call me. This time, I just figured that it would be a good plan to not just be so quick to give out my number to a guy just because he asks for it. Also, if he's a weirdo, I won't have to worry about him calling me incessantly. So, now, my question: how long should I wait to call him? Also, would it be weird and impersonal for me to shoot him an email? His personal email address was on his card. It’s been a while since I’ve been approached by a guy who I’ve actually been interested in calling. I don’t want to wait too long; however, at the same time, I don’t want to seem too eager or desperate even. What would you do?
Edited 4/10/2006 10:40 am ET by mali2579

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Wait for him to call you...if I'm reading your post right, you were the last one to call him and he hasn't returned your call. You are way overthinking this, but I'm sure you realize that ;-). I would put it out of your head...if he calls, great; if not, oh well, then he wasn't all that interested.
Sheri
Hi mali2579,
Firstly, I want to say that your courage to follow through with calling him is highly commendable!
Secondly, I would have to say that I don't think he interested, especially after reading these two comments.
"asked me if it bothered me that he didn’t remember me at first."
"it’s been nearly a week since he met me, and that when he didn’t hear from me, he assumed that I wasn’t going to call"
I'm sorry, but you just don't forget someone you're interested in that easily. Whether he thought you were going to call or not is completely irrelevant, he should have been excited that you finally did. Forget worrying about "texting protocols", this man just doesn't come across as keen.
Edited 4/17/2006 12:42 pm ET by hal_9000
Oh well, his loss!
Thank you for all of your advice. I appreciate it.
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