Get the Ball Rolling!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Get the Ball Rolling!
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Sat, 12-23-2006 - 1:49am

There is a girl at volleyball whom I like a lot. We are talking and laughing together, but I have to get the ball rolling. What may I do?

Today, when I saw her, I went up to greet her and asked "What up? I did not see you last week!" I found it to be a nice gesture, but I know that afterward I fumbled a few times: One, I was not able to lock eye contact with her during the whole time. Two, I jumped the gun when I leaned in to brush my arm against hers and she pulled away. Three, I could not wisk her away from her friends because I was too self-conscious to make a move in front of people. Four, I was not able to move the conversation into the more intimate, personal topics.

Right now, the problem is that since she is going to Japan, I will not see her for three weeks. None the less, I am not giving up. This girl is mine and I am not going to let this one slip away!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 9:53am

I think that's the right attitude to have!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 12:38pm
While I do appreciate your response, I need some thing more specific than to ask her out. To be clear, I intend to go all the way, to seduce her and lay with her! So, what may I do to be more intimate with her, both physically and emotionally?
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 12:40pm
Does she get a say in this?


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 1:14pm
I will accept and respect whatever her decision is. Now, if she has the right to turn me down, I have the right to ask and pursue her.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 2:03pm

About the arm-brushing incident...I'm not sure her pulling away was such a good sign, unfortunately...but I could be wrong - it could also mean she's shy and skittish.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 2:31pm
Yeah, I know that I jumped the gun, but since we continued talking and laughing afterward, I am still going to try. Unfortunately, I will not see her again for a few weeks, and I do not even have a number or e-mail. As you can see, I need a crash-course, and like I said, I need to find some way to be close to her.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:26pm

Whoa doggies!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 2:53pm
Please do not talk me out of this. Although I sound ridiculous, I know that I have to go through this .... Now, I know that I have to ask her out, but what do I do afterward? I have no courtship experience and am clueless, and although she may not be interested in me, I am afraid that if I do not push things along, she will just toss me into the "let's-be-friend" category.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 4:08pm

First tip - women don't find it attractive when men try to push their way into their lives. They find it freakish.

Instead of worrying about her being interested in you, flip it around and show genuine interest in her.

If she's interested in you, she'll reciprocate.

If she's not, chalk it up to experience and move on.


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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 5:32pm

Okay, here's dating

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