Ok, I wanted to do a little more than the list partially because I'm a nerd, partially because I love to write and I think this is a fun topic, and partially because I'm bored at work. :) Sending a drink is simply my opinion, but I've heard its praises echoed throughout my circle of friends...maybe it's just us. :) So here's a start:
First of all, approach a woman with an intent to TALK to her, not just to get in her pants; any halfway intelligent woman will sniff out the desperation that you reek of and won't give you a second look. If your primary concern is to get a woman into bed, I can't help you.
That being said, please, please, PLEASE don't use a pick-up line or cheesy tactic. I've had them used on me numerous times and not one has worked. Approach a woman as you would any other human being (we are that, you know), and say hello. Deceptively simple, no? Proceed to introduce yourself and make pleasant, interesting conversation. Better yet, use another tactic that many of my girl friends comment is far under-used and very obviously shows your interest, not to mention a certain old fashioned flair and creativity: send her a drink. I can't speak for all women, but you would definitely have my attention over other just as attractive men, not just because you've a bought me a drink, but because you took the time and thought to ask the bartender what I was drinking and to send me the same thing. It's a tactic of sorts, sure, but it's not cheesy and she still gets to choose whether or not she wants to talk to you. Of course this means you shouldn't go around sending drinks to every cute woman you see, but if you make persistent eye contact and she's smiled your way, it's a pretty safe bet.
Though it should go without saying, such a move (or ANY move) can't be successfully executed if you're wearing ripped, frayed jeans and a dingy shirt that it appears you've (if in fact you haven't) owned since high school. I'm not saying it's necessary to wear a suit and tie every time you leave your house, of course not, but put some thought into what you put on; like it or not, the way you present yourself is a reflection of who you are and saying you're a slovenly bachelor is NOT going to catch her attention. A few guidelines: don't wear clothing that's three sizes too big for you (or too tight) and no holes, rips, or tears.
Once you have her attention (and keep it), ASK for her number. If you don't, she probably won't (sad but true) and you'll have missed your chance. If you have any ounce of respect for her, don't try to take her home, patience is a virtue. We like sex, too, but we're willing to wait for it. If you do get her number, CALL HER and have the decency to return her calls when you say you will. Don't resort solely to texting, it's impersonal and, to many people, rude.
20. HANG UP the stupid cell phone and interact with the world around you. There are live people - live women - right in your vicinity.
21. Do something nice for a change, like opening the door for an elderly person or saying 'thank you' to a cashier. If I'm around when you do, I guarantee I'll notice.
22. Order a glass of wine instead of a beer at the bar.
We must be sharing a brain. I was just thinking the same thing. But I was also thinking along the lines of - why is that women seem to end up doing most of the work? Guys can act all flaky and fall back on 'he's just not that into you.' I'm a big fan of not throwing energy after a guy who's not a runner, but from what I've observed most (not all) guys just don't seem to care. It seems always like every guy in a room always hones in on the leggy blonde with all her attributes on display.
Maybe its the people I know, where I live or my age range, but I don't know any guy that is seriously chasing after or worrying about getting any woman. They are too busy living their lives, commitment and relationship-free. While we ladies sit around trying to figure out how to get them, they are off playing ball, traveling, taking in a show or pursuing other interests. They are not even half as worried about grabbing one of us.
This is interesting because I feel like from my experience, guys are trying just as hard (or at least they want to) as women...my guy friends, guys I've dated, the lot.
It's probably just different matury levels. Most guys I know are commitmentphobes and shy away from real emotions, commitment and feeling tied down. They are in no hurry to "settle down"
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11. Try not to stare at our "personalities". Unless we're wearing something low-cut... which means we want free drinks at the bar. :-)
12. Lay off the cat-calls, "babys", "sweetcheeks", and "dears" unless you know us very well. We have names and would prefer that you use them.
13. You're a man, I'm a woman. You're not interested in hearing about my period and I'm not interested in hearing about "the big game."
14. A cell phone and a big SUV are not sufficient substitutes for a brain and a personality.
15. Read a book (comic books do not count). They make you interesting and give you something to talk about - other than just sports.
16. Learn to cook. We love a man who can cook. We also love it when you can clean up after yourselves after you cook.
17. Don't be rude to the wait staff. We're not impressed with rudeness. And it makes you look stupid.
Ok, I wanted to do a little more than the list partially because I'm a nerd, partially because I love to write and I think this is a fun topic, and partially because I'm bored at work. :) Sending a drink is simply my opinion, but I've heard its praises echoed throughout my circle of friends...maybe it's just us. :) So here's a start:
First of all, approach a woman with an intent to TALK to her, not just to get in her pants; any halfway intelligent woman will sniff out the desperation that you reek of and won't give you a second look. If your primary concern is to get a woman into bed, I can't help you.
That being said, please, please, PLEASE don't use a pick-up line or cheesy tactic. I've had them used on me numerous times and not one has worked. Approach a woman as you would any other human being (we are that, you know), and say hello. Deceptively simple, no? Proceed to introduce yourself and make pleasant, interesting conversation. Better yet, use another tactic that many of my girl friends comment is far under-used and very obviously shows your interest, not to mention a certain old fashioned flair and creativity: send her a drink. I can't speak for all women, but you would definitely have my attention over other just as attractive men, not just because you've a bought me a drink, but because you took the time and thought to ask the bartender what I was drinking and to send me the same thing. It's a tactic of sorts, sure, but it's not cheesy and she still gets to choose whether or not she wants to talk to you. Of course this means you shouldn't go around sending drinks to every cute woman you see, but if you make persistent eye contact and she's smiled your way, it's a pretty safe bet.
Though it should go without saying, such a move (or ANY move) can't be successfully executed if you're wearing ripped, frayed jeans and a dingy shirt that it appears you've (if in fact you haven't) owned since high school. I'm not saying it's necessary to wear a suit and tie every time you leave your house, of course not, but put some thought into what you put on; like it or not, the way you present yourself is a reflection of who you are and saying you're a slovenly bachelor is NOT going to catch her attention. A few guidelines: don't wear clothing that's three sizes too big for you (or too tight) and no holes, rips, or tears.
Once you have her attention (and keep it), ASK for her number. If you don't, she probably won't (sad but true) and you'll have missed your chance. If you have any ounce of respect for her, don't try to take her home, patience is a virtue. We like sex, too, but we're willing to wait for it. If you do get her number, CALL HER and have the decency to return her calls when you say you will. Don't resort solely to texting, it's impersonal and, to many people, rude.
What number are we on? 20?
20. HANG UP the stupid cell phone and interact with the world around you. There are live people - live women - right in your vicinity.
21. Do something nice for a change, like opening the door for an elderly person or saying 'thank you' to a cashier. If I'm around when you do, I guarantee I'll notice.
22. Order a glass of wine instead of a beer at the bar.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I'm a big fan of not throwing energy after a guy who's not a runner, but from what I've observed most (not all) guys just don't seem to care. It seems always like every guy in a room always hones in on the leggy blonde with all her attributes on display.
~Heather~
Seriously!
Maybe its the people I know, where I live or my age range, but I don't know any guy that is seriously chasing after or worrying about getting any woman. They are too busy living their lives, commitment and relationship-free. While we ladies sit around trying to figure out how to get them, they are off playing ball, traveling, taking in a show or pursuing other interests. They are not even half as worried about grabbing one of us.
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