The girl I met at the bar
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| Fri, 06-30-2006 - 2:52am |
Hal asked me somewhere about the girl I met a couple months ago at bar and started to "date". To make a long story as short as it could be...I met an attractive sweet girl at bar and looked at her and she looked at me and laughed- I got offended by it b/c I thought she was laughing at how ugly I was or something and left the bar...she asked my friends about me after I left, we ended up going out to lunch and hanging out a few times and then I met her ex boyfriend(we bumped into him at a restaurant) and he was dressed in an expensive suit, drove a mercedes, was built like vin disel, and looked like a model...he was the perfect guy all women want....and that upset the hell outta me..I tried to forget it but I couldnt.
I didnt want to be a weirdo and ask odd questions like do you still love him, do you like good looking guys, do you like men with money...and on and on so I started to make myself "busy" anytime she called and wanted to do something. Then I started to feel so bad about making excuses so I stopped answering her calls a couple weeks ago. She hasnt called in 10 days so it is offically over.
It was either this or get closer to her and then annoy and torment her with my insecruities about her ex boyfriend...she belongs with him they make the perfect couple...I had no business with a girl like her.

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Anti Sexy,
A lot of people define people's worth by what job they hold, where they live, what investment properties they own, what kind of car they drive and measure them by their financial status and material possessions. I’m not going to lie to you. There are a lot of gold diggers, self absorbed and selfish people in this world. I can either complain about it and let it bring me down or I can rise above it and accept that not everyone I meet is going to hold the same values and principles as me. That's life. You need to filter out the bad and hold on tightly to the good.
Feisty
Fiesty has given you some really good advice. Antisexy, I'm just confused why you say thre are so many superficial women out there, yet you meet one that is not, and she cares about you. I hope you find what you are loooking for.
"As a man thinks, so is he"
i know not everyone isnt a bad person. I guess I think about things too much and worry about stuff that is out of my control.
I have to say something about my situation though....My feelings have been immortalized on reality TV, I cant remember what show it was but there was a guy who was dating a girl and then he found out she had dated fabio. So he broke up with her and he says in an interview that any guy could identify him and how he feels...which is that you shouldnt ever knowingly date a woman who has been with someone better then yourself.
I have read all the posts about how stupid it is to actually believe that but...I ask a question of the women...if you were dating a guy and getting serious and then found out he had been in a relationship with someone you thought was every man's dream woman?
His past is in the past. I dont know about his past girlfriends/dates and I dont care to know. I'm his present and future. That so-called dream woman no longer exists for him because I'm the dream woman now.
And that guy from that show was a tool. Tv is the idiot box of this world and shouldnt be used to measure yourself and your actions.
<< which is that you shouldnt ever knowingly date a woman who has been with someone better then yourself >>
That assumes that there is some objective scale of measurement of what is "good" and "better" in dating. Actually, there is no such thing. Some people look for a good looking athletic guy, others prefer intelligence, yet others prefer something else (like being affectionate, or cooking well, or whatever). Nobody is perfect, there is no "perfect person," either among men or women. Therefore one can't say that his date has been "with someone better than him." Maybe the girl likes some qualities that you have, and other guys don't. Therefore, for her, you are better.
<< if you were dating a guy and getting serious and then found out he had been in a relationship with someone you thought was every man's dream woman? >>
See, that question does not apply, because I can't imagine that woman. There is no "every guy's dream woman" as people's needs and likes are so different.
Edited 7/3/2006 1:17 pm ET by pimbiroo
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