Going to bars alone?
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| Mon, 07-17-2006 - 1:10am |
Hi--I often go to bars alone--most of my girlfriends have moved away and the two that are here don't make it out so often (one's married and the other just doesn't go to bars). It would be nice to meet anybody--men or women--for the purpose of being friends. And yes, I actually like drinking, so don't poo on my bar habit.
However, it seems I always just meet guys and I noticed the last two people I met seemed like great guys, and I had over an hour of conversation with each, but I never asked their names and they never asked mine. One even walked me a block from my house. I feel like these are good guys that don't want to pick up girls at bars--which I totally respect. However, it would be nice to actually get to know such nice guys. How do I introduce myself or give my number without seeming too forward? I should give my number instead of asking for theirs, right? Also, what if a guy seems like he would make a great friend (as in someone I'm not attracted to), how would I give him my number without making him think that I was interested romantically?
Thanks for any advice.

When you get into conversation, almost right off the bat, say, I'm sorry ...I'm so and so. Just offer it up and he'll offer up his name. Play it off like you almost feel rude by talking and not offering your name right away.
When you feel the conversation wrapping up on it's own tell him it was nice talking and if he wants to meet up again to give you a call...offer your number. If you're not romantically interested tell him you might see him around there again...don't lead him on by making plans unless you've made it clear in convo. that you're not interested in dating anybody right now.