Going slow vs going nowhere
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|Thu, 04-24-2003 - 10:50am|
IT guy is going slow and I thought that was good. I asked him questions about dating and he said he's a "one woman" guy. So I ASSumed that meant he wasn't dating others. He always throws out things like "anytime you want to do X, call me". Yet we NEVER make plans for specific days. In fact, when I say "how about Fri?". He's busy. Vague answers about what he's actually busy doing...but Any OTHER time you want to do X call me. Now the guy emails me everyday. Tells me he's thinking of me. Etc. But he never calls me.
I have been thinking Hey, he obviously likes me and wants to go slow. So I'll be patient.
BUT! I just realized (or became insecure?) there is another possibility. He wants to keep it casual. He wants to (or is) dating other ppl. Why else wouldn't he want to kiss me after 6 weeks? Because he's a "one woman" guy and he doesn't want to be MY guy yet? Call me when you want to do some activity sounds like a friendship, not a romantic potential. Which leads back to: I have waited this long to sleep with someone - but he doesn't even touch my hand, hug me or make ANY contact at all! In fact, when I tried to cuddle him on Fri, he moved away saying "are you comfortable?" and I said "uhm, yeah. just a little figety I guess"...?
So maybe I'm just being insecure b/c I am used to guys being all over me? I don't know...but something doesn't feel right to me...
I don't know.