Got her number but I AM SO UNCOOL!

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Got her number but I AM SO UNCOOL!
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Fri, 03-31-2006 - 7:55am

Continuing on from this saga:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=6371.1&ctx=128

After the usual small talk, hesitation and missed opportunities I finally got around to asking for her number. But it’s not like I was suave in any way, no, I just blurted it out like an idiot...AN IDIOT!

I handed in my towel and she returned my membership card (it is in a small wallet with a bit of paper with my name on it). This embarrassing conversation is what followed:

Me: You know what you should do? Give me your mobile number, that way the next time we are both free we can arrange to do something.

Her: Ok, Shall I write it on the back of this?

Me: Yes.

Her: It’s a new number

Me: I’m sure you won’t make a mistake.

She handed back the bit of paper complete with her number on the back and as I took it I looked up at her. She was smiling, but it appeared as though she was embarrassed, her normally pale face was a shade of red. I put the bit of paper back into the wallet, said “Thanks” and walked out.

So, how did I do?

Is it worth pursuing?

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:39am
Well, she may have time to squeeze in a quick conversation.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:51am

So get on her calendar for next week already! If you wait until next week to do that, it'll probably be too late.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:02am
Would you lose interest that quickly? It's not the impression I get from women who post here. They will (im)patiently wait over a week for a guy they are interested in to call. THEN they will chase him!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:19am

My post wasn't about losing interest...it's about her having what sounds like a relatively full life and schedule, which is a good thing, IMO, but if you don't get on her calendar at least a few days in advance, you're going to be SOL.

But yes, if a guy didn't call me within a couple-three days of getting my number, I would lose interest because he wasn't showing interest in me. BTW, I don't "wait" for men to call me--I assume they are not going to...that way it's a pleasant surprise if they do! Then, if he does, I will evaluate my interest level at the time of the call based on a number of factors, including how long it took him to get around to calling me.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:28am
Hal, blushing from a woman is a GOOD SIGN. Yes, you had better call her!!!!

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:39am

>>Because I know she is busy at least until Sunday.<<

Do not, under any circumstances, call her the same day you would like to ask her out. Call her early and say, "I know you're busy, so I wanted to see if you might have some time next week to meet for dinner."

I love, love, love it when I guy realizes I have a life and he might have to plan ahead a little bit to see me. It shows respect for the other person's time and life commitments. I had one guy leave a message on a Tuesday that I loved: "TG, I know you are in high demand, so I wanted to reserve Saturday night with you now - if you're free."

(I was in high demand due to work events, not a line of men knocking down my door, but he didn't necessarily know that).

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:49am

>blushing from a woman is a GOOD SIGN

I was hoping someone would say this.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 11:11am

Best. Thread Title. Ever.

Hal who gives a damn how you did it, you did it! You didn't like fall over from it or pass out or run out giggling like a teenager. I think it was a good pickup.

At any rate, if I wasnt interested I wouldnt give him my number. And yes blushing is a VERY good sign. She was probably taken off guard but PLEASED that you finally did something. ]

And I agree with the others, if you want to see her, call her. If you got it Thursday, Saturday or Sunday is a good idea.

Yesssss...the soap opera finally took a new twist. Love it, love it. Going to keep watching now.

Ruby

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 11:31am
Reading Hal's post and dilema, it all proves my point and theory. If a guy is interested in you, he finds a way to ask you out or atleast a number.
Doesn't matter how he asks, atleast he asks. As painful and scary as it seemed to him, he did it. Proves my point of why should we do the work for the guy when if he wants something, no matter how painstakingly shy he is or how awkward it may seem, he still finds the nerve and courage to take a risk and ask.
Thanks Hal for proving me and others right. You liked her enough to risk your self esteem, which in my opinion, says alot.
Just call her. The hard part is over now.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 12:03pm
What do you have to loose?? Nothing. Just do it. Regardless if she was a little embaressed, she was probably caught off guard more than anything. If I am not interested in guys, I just politely tell them I have a boyfriend.......

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