Got her number but I AM SO UNCOOL!

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Got her number but I AM SO UNCOOL!
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Fri, 03-31-2006 - 7:55am

Continuing on from this saga:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=6371.1&ctx=128

After the usual small talk, hesitation and missed opportunities I finally got around to asking for her number. But it’s not like I was suave in any way, no, I just blurted it out like an idiot...AN IDIOT!

I handed in my towel and she returned my membership card (it is in a small wallet with a bit of paper with my name on it). This embarrassing conversation is what followed:

Me: You know what you should do? Give me your mobile number, that way the next time we are both free we can arrange to do something.

Her: Ok, Shall I write it on the back of this?

Me: Yes.

Her: It’s a new number

Me: I’m sure you won’t make a mistake.

She handed back the bit of paper complete with her number on the back and as I took it I looked up at her. She was smiling, but it appeared as though she was embarrassed, her normally pale face was a shade of red. I put the bit of paper back into the wallet, said “Thanks” and walked out.

So, how did I do?

Is it worth pursuing?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 3:22pm
Hal, forgive me for asking, but I'm curious....how old are you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 6:21pm
Seriously, work on the over-analyzing thing. If I ran into a guy that had my number but hadn't USED it yet, it would be awkward. And guess what? You ARE friendly strangers. Just call her, ask her what she's doing on Monday and if she'd like to have dinner or coffee or SOMETHING. You are creating something that isn't there yet and the more you wait the more both of you are going to think about it. Just do it and dear God, don't post again until you do. We drive ourselves crazy with this stuff and it's really not worth it. If the chemistry is there, it will be there.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 3:11am

I know what you implying and you are absolutely right. I am too old to be behaving this way. The problem is that my life normally runs like clockwork until a woman enters the scene. This forum is the only real outlet I have for discussing the issue.

P.S:I have started day trading and it is a risky venture. It involves a large investment of time and money, quite often for little or no return, or worse a big loss. On some trades there is a potential to lose up to (and sometimes over) $500 in a day. I am confident my methodology will eventually be profitable but since the end of January this year I have lost over $2500. There is the chance that I will lose more yet that doesn’t stop me from logging on to my broker and entering a trade. I find this easier than picking up the phone and calling a woman for a date.




Edited 4/2/2006 3:32 am ET by hal_9000
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 3:55am

I have started day trading and it is a risky venture. ***So is love and dating.***
It involves a large investment of time and money, quite often for little or no return, or worse a big loss. ***Again, so is love.***
On some trades there is a potential to lose up to (and sometimes over) $500 in a day. ***Only if she's a gold digger***
I am confident my methodology will eventually be profitable***it will if you call her*** but since the end of January this year I have lost over $2500.***No chance of that happening here, lest you get hitched***
There is the chance that I will lose more yet that doesn’t stop me from logging on to my broker and entering a trade.***you might lose this fish too if you don't reel her in***
I find this easier than picking up the phone and calling a woman for a date.***Money is fun to play with and good thing you have a mind for investment, but your day trader doesn't bring happiness, friendship, love, sex or companionship***

Fixed your post. :P But in all seriousness, I do hope you have called her by now or make it a plan to call Sunday afternoon.

Ruby

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 1:40pm

I suspect you are a very left-brained person.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 3:18pm
No, no, no, I wasn't implying that at all.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 7:43pm
I think it's normal to protect your heart more than your money. It makes sense to me. But, in the same way as investing, there's no return without taking the chance in the first place.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 10:54pm

Hal, I am jealous of you. I have nothing happening and no girl to think about, while you are twisting and turning like a worm. Thus, if you are afraid of calling her, give me her number and I'll call her myself.

For me, it is not that difficult to ask for a date. It is because, I suppose, I get excited thinking about the girl! You start thinking about her and, soon enough, you just want to call and hear her voice....

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 8:49am
akt, I'm just curious....how old are you?
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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 9:19am

Hal,

You know where I stand on this from previous threads. If a man waits too long to call, some women see it as disrespectful. I may be interested in a man, but he is soooo getting the boot if he waits a week to call. I may be interested in him, but I meet a lot of men and would wait for someone who shows genuine interest in me by calling within the first couple of days after asking for my number.

For all of your whining about women who give out numbers when they aren't interested, I find it a little bit ridiculous for you to then not call a woman who's number you asked for. That's just as bad.

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