Got her number but I AM SO UNCOOL!
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| Fri, 03-31-2006 - 7:55am |
Continuing on from this saga:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=6371.1&ctx=128
After the usual small talk, hesitation and missed opportunities I finally got around to asking for her number. But it’s not like I was suave in any way, no, I just blurted it out like an idiot...AN IDIOT!
I handed in my towel and she returned my membership card (it is in a small wallet with a bit of paper with my name on it). This embarrassing conversation is what followed:
Me: You know what you should do? Give me your mobile number, that way the next time we are both free we can arrange to do something.
Her: Ok, Shall I write it on the back of this?
Me: Yes.
Her: It’s a new number
Me: I’m sure you won’t make a mistake.
She handed back the bit of paper complete with her number on the back and as I took it I looked up at her. She was smiling, but it appeared as though she was embarrassed, her normally pale face was a shade of red. I put the bit of paper back into the wallet, said “Thanks” and walked out.
So, how did I do?
Is it worth pursuing?

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Jules,
I respect your opinion but this situation is (slightly) different. I have seen her at the gym everyday since asking for her number and we seem to be chatting more. I was surprised when she made a comment about what we spoke about during our brief encounter at the supermarket (I was buying a pizza, not generally considered healthy food). It doesn't make sense to call her for a date when I could ask her in person...I'm STUCK!
Okay, so next time you see her at the gym, ask her what she's doing Friday night.
>Okay, so next time you see her at the gym,
>ask her what she's doing Friday night.
This is part of my cunning plan!
Please just do it.
I went through this exact thing with a guy at the gym. We exchanged glances for weeks. We had an awkward first conversation. Then, we started talking regularly, and the mutual attraction - I thought - was pretty obvious. We both showed up on Tuesday nights at the same time, and he made an effort to talk to me. This went on for another few weeks.
Then, I started to get frustrated that he wasn't asking me out. So, I assumed he wasn't interested. Now, we both seem top avoid the gym on Tuesday nights.
The whole thing just fizzled, I got really annoyed that he never did anything, and it's a big 'what if' for me now.
Moral of the story -- do not wait so long that she gets annoyed. Ask her NOW. The benefits far outweigh the risks.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Went through something similar and the fact that he never asked me out or did anything other than small talk made me so frustrated that I began to lose interest in him because I felt that he wasn't that interested in me.
I don't know if I count them as missed opportunities or just things that weren't meant to be. That's how I prefer to look at them.
But Hal, please do something. You put yourself through all of the awkwardness of atleast getting her number that she's probably wondering what happened to you. Are u another one of those guys that like to play games? What will happen is if you wait too long, it will become so awkward that you two will start to avoid one another or it will become more uncomfortable seeing her.
I sent her a text message. Not asking her out on a date or anything. Just saying hi and asking if she is doing anything exciting.
Well at least it's a start!!
Ahhhh...me no speaka da english!
Stacey, would it make a difference whether your crush text or called?
Emailing or IMing is sooooo impersonal. Hal you have seen this lady in person several times and asked her for her number. You should CALL her.
If I had a crush on a guy at the gym; and we have seen each other and spoken directly to each other and exchanged phone numbers, I may be surprised by a text message, but I would hope that you would follow-up very soon to a phone call.
When I've met men online and we have gone to the telephone stage, it bothers me when the guy wants to revert back to IMing or emailing. Usually sends a signal that you are really not that interested cause you have other stuff going on and you are basically keeping in contact via IM just to keep me in the loop.
IMO, you have one day to follow up with a telephone call.
Call the woman. Don't be afraid.
(Sigh) She's probably getting signals from you that you're not really interested.
Be brave. Be the warrior that you are. You asked for the digits. You took control. Now handle the situation.
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