Got her number but I AM SO UNCOOL!
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| Fri, 03-31-2006 - 7:55am |
Continuing on from this saga:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=6371.1&ctx=128
After the usual small talk, hesitation and missed opportunities I finally got around to asking for her number. But it’s not like I was suave in any way, no, I just blurted it out like an idiot...AN IDIOT!
I handed in my towel and she returned my membership card (it is in a small wallet with a bit of paper with my name on it). This embarrassing conversation is what followed:
Me: You know what you should do? Give me your mobile number, that way the next time we are both free we can arrange to do something.
Her: Ok, Shall I write it on the back of this?
Me: Yes.
Her: It’s a new number
Me: I’m sure you won’t make a mistake.
She handed back the bit of paper complete with her number on the back and as I took it I looked up at her. She was smiling, but it appeared as though she was embarrassed, her normally pale face was a shade of red. I put the bit of paper back into the wallet, said “Thanks” and walked out.
So, how did I do?
Is it worth pursuing?

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Been following this thread and wanted to put in my two cents -
I would be really turned off if a guy sent me a text message. Not that it's necessarily terrible - but he's got my number - why can't he CALL?
It's like the constant e-mailing thing and he doesn't just ask me out. That's nervewracking and a complete turn off because I'll view the guy as a wimp.
You really ought to be calling her to set up a meeting for coffee or something OUTSIDE the gym. Just because you see her at the gym doesn't mean a thing.
Set something up. CALL HER FOR GODS SAKE ALREADY.
Maybe she has to pay extra for sending or receiving texts. I do, and I'd be BUGGED if a guy sent me a text without asking me first if it was ok to do so, and I probably wouldn't respond, even if I *would* respond to a phone call.
Sheri
Sheri,
I really wonder if we are talking about the same interest level. I honestly don't understand it when women say "It would bug/annoy me if a guy". Let's put this in perspective. I am hoping that I am not just "A/SOME GUY" to her! I am hoping her interest level is MUCH higher than that. If I annoyed her by sending a text without first submitting a written request to do so then I DON'T WANT TO DATE HER.
Interest level can change depending on the behavior of the guy in question (in both directions--up and down). It's not static. I can be very interested in someone, but if he does a couple things that bug me...the interest level will go down. It may not *disappear*, but it will go down. If he does things that impress me, OTOH, it'll go up.
And I'm not talking about a written request...it's just courteous, IMO, to *ask* if it's ok to text her before you do so, rather than just assume that it is. Of course, that would mean that you would have to actually USE the number she gave you for the purpose she gave it to you for...i.e., to CALL her and TALK to her.
Sheri
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