Great blog about online dating at 50

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Great blog about online dating at 50
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Thu, 03-07-2013 - 6:30am

So I stumbled upon this blog: http://1yearofonlinedatingat50.com/

I think it's required reading for any woman who's doing onine dating, especially if you're over 50. She blogged all through 2012 but is currently not blogging about online dating. I'm enjoying reading all of the many entries and can really relate! Enjoy.

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Sat, 03-23-2013 - 12:27pm

I have no advice in terms of where to move, nor have I ever moved to increase my odds of meeting someone. I've been on these boards for six years, and I hear older women all over the country saying the same thing: it's hard to meet men in our age group (I'm 58, BTW).

Sure, those cities may have 2 men to every women, but how old are the men?

Honestly, I think it would be far better to move somewhere that you really wanted to move to, say to be near family or to take a job you wanted, or perhaps there is a sport you love that you could do there (like skiing). I think it's a set up for disappointment to move somewhere for the sole reason of finding a man.

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Fri, 03-22-2013 - 12:02pm

I'm going to read that blog right now!  However, if anyone has any input to my situation, I'd appreciate it.  At the age of 60, I look 50 (good genes, a facelift, Botox, and Juvederm ... I'm really working hard on it!), I have been on every dating site for about 10 years, on and off.  OF COURSE I lie about my age -- surely all that money has bought me 4 years ... I say I'm 56.  I've known for years that demographically, the state I live in (CT) has 2 women to every 1 man; as you get older, it gets worse.  I actually met my ex-husband in Boston.  I couldn't leave the state while my mother was living, but now I'm free to go.  Years ago, I identified CO as the best place to move because the demographics were exactly opposite -- 2 men to every 1 woman.  Thanks to a couple of men I had met on Match.com, I went out and visited and loved it, BUT no one I met had a job.  Now I'm thinking TX (plenty of jobs, more men than women) ... and since I work for a school, I have all summer to visit and look for a job.  However, after spending my life moving from CT to NY to Boston to Providence and back to CT, as I've gotten older I'm losing that wanderlust and faith in myself that used to make me capable of moving anywhere and believing that I'd find a job, and things would be OK.  Plus, TX is a huge cultural change from CT ... although perhaps not if one is in a big city.  Has anyone else been in this position?  Is there anyone else 60 or older who feels as though if they only had a chance to live somewhere where everyone isn't married and there are actually single people, they might find someone normally and naturally?  I met my ex-husband after moving up to Boston, and I met him at work, not on a dating site.  Does anyone have any suggestions about where to move?  I'd love to hear about your experiences.  Thanks!

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Thu, 03-07-2013 - 12:24pm
I'll have to read that even though I've decided to give up on OLD for now and the forseeable future. I just can't bring myself to go through all that any more. I did read an article in Women's Day or some similar magazine about a woman doing OLD who mentioned how many guys wanted to go out with her and I just thought that I wish I had that problem--but she was in her 40's I think. It's just like if you are over 50, you might as well have one foot in the grave. I feel that when I meet a guy IRL, he won't know how old I am (and like everyone says, I look younger than my age) so it doesn't seem to be a big problem.