A guy in class..

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Registered: 01-10-2007
A guy in class..
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 11:22am

I'm reverting back to my younger days! I'm a grad student and I like a guy in my class.

I had class with him last term and we sat next to each other. This term I have 2 classes with him, one of which is online. In the regular class, he sat down next to me the first day and we've just sat in the same places since then. He's kind of shy but we usually chat briefly before class or leaving, always about schoolwork though. Well one time last term he did ask me about where I'm from. This class happens to be pretty tough and in chatting about the midterm I suggested we get a study group going. He agreed with the idea.

In our online class, we had to do intro/icebreaker posts and also post a photo. He posted one of he and his friend (female), as they run races together. Don't know if she's really a friend, or a girlfriend. I couldn't find him on myspace or facebook and it's driving me nuts not knowing if he has a girlfriend or not. So obviously I don't want to ask him to grab a bite or a drink after class in case he does have a girlfriend.

Any suggestions? I guess I could start with talking to him more about getting some people together to study.. I feel like I've forgotten how to go about this when it's a guy in class!

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In reply to: azure84
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 2:24pm
What is the harm in asking him to grab a coffee or snack after class? He hasn't told you that he has a girlfriend . . .
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Registered: 04-22-2007
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 5:18pm

Sounds like you and I are dealing with similar issues. I started a post the other day about a girl in my class, as well.

Anyway...

You could just say something like "you and your girlfriend look cute together in that picture." If she's not his girlfriend he will correct you. If she is his girlfriend he will thank you. From a college guy's perspective, it won't sound unusual for you to say that. He won't even know you're after him.

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Registered: 04-22-2007
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 5:27pm

Hello,

I'm in grad school as well, and the social interaction can really seem like I'm back in high school...

I think you should ask him out for a coffee or something. Or discuss something at the end of the class, then casually say "do you want to grab a coffee and continue this?" At least you'll get a chance to find out whether he's got a girlfriend or not... :)

Good luck!

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Registered: 12-07-2006
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:37pm

Just tell his "I like you" or "I think you're cute."

Seriously. Just say that.

We guys don't think you're coming on to strong or anything like that. We don't laugh or giggle to our friends about how "creepy" or what a "loser" this girl who asked us out is. If you're reasonably attractive, most guys will gladly accept ANY conversation from you. Seriously; ANYTHING. You're not going to get slapped across the face or have a police officer come to your door if you say "I think you're hot" or "I want to f*** you."

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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 11:59pm

Thanks for the advice everyone!

You guys are right, there's no harm in asking him to go for a coffee, if I can get up the courage to do that! I'll work on it!

redonculous- i love your suggestions (especially the last one)! I wish I had the nerve to say that! Well maybe I could if there weren't other people around to witness it :)

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: azure84
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 1:53am
maybe he should take his own advice.

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Registered: 12-07-2006
In reply to: azure84
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 2:35am

>>>maybe he should take his own advice.<<<

Um...No, because since I'm a guy, I WILL get slapped across the face or have a police officer come to my door if I go up to a girl and say "I think you're hot" or "I want to f*** you."