Is this guy flirting or just being nice?
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| Thu, 04-06-2006 - 12:54pm |
I really need a guy's perspective or input on this one, but any advice will be greatly appreciated! Okay, so here's the story....
My mom got her hair done by this guy, so she recommended that I go there. When I first met him and we shook hands, I literally could not catch my breath! For the 3 hours that I was there, he kept asking me personal questions, like what kind of music I like, what I like to do, etc. He even asked me if I was engaged or married, which I'm not. We were talking about college and he mentioned that he was "dating a girl" who was majoring in biology, so then I became confused, because I thought that he was flirting with me, but then he briefly mentioned this girl and then never brought her up again. We continued to talk about all kinds of things and discovered that we both have a lot in common. I told him that I love to fish, but never have anyone to go with. He then chimed in and said that he was wanting to go fishing that weekend at a lake in the country, and asked me if I had heard of it. But then he left it at that and never asked me to go with him! He also asked me if I liked Chinese food, and said he was thinking about going to the chinese restaurant in town later that night. But again, that's all he said --he didn't ask me out or to go eat with him! I got a feeling that he was leaving these comments open-ended, so that I would make the first move and offer to go. But, I didn't want to get rejected in case I was misinterpreting what he was saying, so I didn't say anything. He gave me his business card, but I didn't think anything much about it. I left the salon confused and not knowing what to do. I got a "vibe" from him that he was flirting, but then again, I also got some mixed messages (i.e. "dating a girl"). I didn't know if he mentioned to girl to give me a clue that he was taken, or if he was doing it to get my attention.
I told my mom what happened, and she said that she found out that he had just starting dating the girl he mentioned, and that they are not serious or anything like that. My mom also that that he told her that he had been hurt bad in the past (i.e. his last girlfriend cheated on him) so she thinks he may be a bit gun-shy. This information got my hopes up enough for me to do something, so I sent him a "Thankyou" card -- in it I thanked him for doing my hair and I mentioned that if he ever decides to go fishing and wants some company, that I would love to go. I included my cell # and email address.
My problem is that I sent him the card a week ago, and I have heard nothing from him. How do I know if this guy was really flirting with me and fishing for info, or was he just making friendly salon chit-chat? I thought he was flirting, but now since he hasn't contacted me, I'm beginnging to wonder if I read him wrong. Since it's been at least a week and he hasn't called or emailed me, should I just assume that he's not into me and move on? Or should I give him more time to contact me? I feel like the ball is in his court now, and if he's interested enough, he'll get a hold of me. What should I do???

People in service industries flirt a lot with customers. They need to build a rapport to build their client base.
I wouldn't even think twice about him.
I also answered you on another board.
I hate to be a "wet blanket," but it's his job to make chit-chat with you - that's what
We all go through that - heck, I have a big crush on a guy I'm sorta starting to get friendly with and I'm really afraid I may be getting my hopes up...sometimes when we're attracted to someone, we can't help it.