guys signals confusing

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guys signals confusing
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Sat, 04-19-2003 - 5:58pm
well i've become single about two months ago and have been dating there is a particular guy in general that lives about five minutes from me. we've been very honest with each other from the beginning neither of us or that experienced in the dating game, but i'm more reserved not into the club scene which he is there almost everynight. it seems that he wants to be with me but then when we are together he tells me how him and his friends were out the night before hanging out with some hotties and this is right after we messed around no sex yet though. but the thing i can't get is that he calls me every night after he goes out with his friends and wants to hang out with me but then when we are together he talks about the hotties he hangs with the night before or whenever i don't know how to take this considering i've only been with my high school sweetheart i'm trying not to let my feelings get to serious but i do like him i just don't know if he likes me the same way help??

~~jenn

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 1:03pm
well, i have eliminated the first guy as a frien as well, i mean i hate to be mean but he obiously didn't care about me at all and that's not a friend i need in my life right now things have been goin great with the other guy i went out with we went to the flyer's game last night in philly(we are both huge hockey fans=)), and then we went out to get dinner at nice little italian restraunt in the city then had a nice walk along the river. it's kind of scary i don't want to get my feelings involved cause i'm afraid he'll turn around and run away but he keeps seeming intersted and finally a guy uts as much into me as i do him....tonight we are goin to the gym and out to see my bro's band it's like a breath of fresh air to have someone i have so much in common with but yet we have our own separate interests as well i hope it works out for us
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 2:13pm
It seems things are going pretty well for you. I'm glad you left out the other guy, he seemed to be holding you down from better things. Concerning your feelings with this other guy, I suggest just letting things run its own course. Showing interest and as one's comfortable level gets better things will just run smoothly. I wish you the best of luck you deserve it!
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 9:48pm
that's what i'm afraid of getting comfortable for some reason i got the fear of getting hurt
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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 12:38am
I posted a message earlier and it went *poof* very wierd. =/

Well concerning your feelings I can understand, I myself am somewhat worse than you in that department heh so I don't know how much I can offer for advice. I think that right now the best way to look at it is as two friends or better yet, two people, having a good time. Don't put a lot of expectation at the present moment since it is too early. Another thing is seeing why you are afraid of getting hurt when you are comfortable with someone? Trying to find the root problem can help loads. If you of course want to write to me by e-mail (because you don't want to place it on the boards) I can talk to you that way.
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 10:33pm
thanks for all your advice=) sorry i haven't been around the boards lately i've been busy with work and went on a three week vacation to venezula for som camping on the jungle and basejumping off of angel falls lol i really cleared my head of all the nonsence and learned i was just lonely at the time but now that i'm working again full time, and i'm getting into the things i love again i'm not out looking for a guy if one comes along great but if not oh well i got my family and friends and the when the right guy does come along this time i will definitly know it form learning from previous mistakes=)

thanks again all,

jenn

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:38pm
Good for you I hope you had a great time there! I am originally from Venezuela =)

Best of luck to you girl and don't worry things will turn out great in the end!

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