Had to cancel date, who needs to call

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anonymous user
Registered: 12-31-1969
Had to cancel date, who needs to call
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:22pm
I met a guy at a party. He told me he was interested in knowing more about my client which seemed plausible given his career so he took my business card. Acouple of days later he e-mailed me about an activity that I might be interested in. I was already planning to attend this event as a friend of mine had already invited me.

On that evening however, I got lost and tried to call my friend and I was unable to reach her. So I called this guy on his cellphone which I had due to the e-mail.

He was still at work and teasingly told me that he thought I had blown him off since I didn't respond to his e-mail. He then went to say that he would like to ask me out and that he would call me the following week.

He called me the following week but at the end of it. I called him the following Tuesday. He couldn't speak on the phone and said that he would call me back. He called my cellphone several times the next day.

When I answered it I was having dinner with a friend so I offered to call him back.

I called him later that evening. We taled for about 30 minutes and I ended the call. He did invite me out to dinner the following Thursday. the next day Ir ealized I had something pending that evening and decided to rescheduele.

So I e-mailed him saying that thursday was bad, how about Friday or Saturday. He e-mailed me back almost immediately with "Sorry, but I've already got plans for those two days. Can we reschedule for the week thereafter?"

So now I don't know how to proceed.

Some critique and advice would be very welcomed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:38pm
UH? Am I missing something here? He asked about next week...so you pick a free day next week and email back "How about X day? At X time?" Even suggest a place or give him an option of places...?

Don't overanalyze it (gosh, I wish I could take this advcie, LOL). Just relax and do want your instincts are telling you...cause if its wrong, he's the wrong guy. Its not a landmine, its suppose to be fun ;-)

Good luck and welcome to the board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 4:30pm
I think you should call him and say that such and such day the following week sounds fine, since you are the one who needed to re-schedule.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 5:28am
Well, this is what I would do.... I would just email him back. He emailed you back and told you that he had plans for those two days. I would email him and somply say, I am really sorry that I had forgotten about that previous engagement on Thursday. Why don't you let me know when would be a good time for you and we can go from there? That way, the ball is back in his court. When he emails you back with his date times, you can see if you are free. If you are not free, tell him when you are.

I hope this helped!


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 8:46am
Sounds like you're playing a game of cat & mouse. You both want to see each other, but when one of you has the time then the other doesn't. I experienced that once. I met a guy & we kept intouch through e-mails & phone calls. We would plan to meet, but then I would either have to work or he would have a previous engagement as well. This went on for a few months, then finally we met up. The date went well. We really enjoyed one anothers company, but nothing ever became of it. I still hear from him on ocassion. It's nice to know that he still thinks of me. If, I were you I wouldn't sweat it. If, you are meant to see each other then it will all pan out. Timing is everything. Continue to keep intouch w/ him & let him know that the interest still presides. Good Luck!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 9:19am
the whole chasing game serves a purpose don't you think? if the two of you had really dearly wanted to meet, then i'm sure you would have made it happen sooner...

it's a kind of "weeding-out" process, eh?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2003
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 3:56pm
You are the one who canceled, so call him and give him an option of several days when you're free, so he can pick one and yall can have an arrangement for sure (finally). Good luck!
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anonymous user
Tue, 04-01-2003 - 5:40am
Thanks, guys for your concern. I waited a week and then called him back. He said he was running out the door and would call me. He may have called me twice before reaching me.

He then teased me about playing hard to get. He said that's ok, he likes women like that. Because I am planning to go somewhere to a monthly event he had earlier told me about, he suggested that he join me tonight. So I'm meeting him in town and we will go together.

Oh this dating is so difficult.