happily and unhappily single...

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Registered: 09-14-2003
happily and unhappily single...
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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 10:02am

do any of you go on dates with guys (and, consequently, overthink his qualities, speculate about your future, all those common 'girl' things) even though you know you should probably just be single? personally, i feel like i'm just really not gonna meet the right guy out there for me anytime soon (i don't have any good opportunities to meet guys in person-so i do the online thing), so i can either sit on my butt and be bored, or get out there and just 'date around.'

this whole post came as a reaction to the fact that i met a nice guy, but i don't know if i'm really that into him. he's the quintessential nice guy-chivalrous, professional, successful, relaxed, attentive, etc. BUT, i think he's a little too into me... it's sucky, cuz when i break things off, it will be for reasons that a lot of women would kill to have: someone that REALLY likes them and wants to be with/take care of/listen to/ them. i'm gonna be part of the reason nice guys get jaded! a lot of women would kill for something like that, and here i am, letting it freak me out. he's just too available!

man, this post made no sense, haha...

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 10:15am

Just because a guy is

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 5:57pm

I heard a theory once, I have no idea where from but it goes something like this: If a woman grew up with an emotionally absent father, dating someone who is the exact opposite of that, can often times feel smothering.

I don't know what kind of validity that statement holds but it rings true for me.

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 7:16pm

I know what you're saying! Whenever a guy gets too interested in me I pull away - I like them best when they are not that interested in me. I think I like what I don't have.

I don't know the solution so I just keep going out, having fun with my friends, dating random guys and enjoying my life! I figure when the right guy comes along I'll have a different reaction!

Happy to know I'm not the only one who does this!

Lasia