I'm going to a basketball game w/ my bf and a good friend and her bf. This will be the first time my bf meets any of my friends, so I hope it goes well!
How about you?
Hope all of you have a great weekend! :-)
But when that OT shows up in next Fri's paycheck--that always makes me feel better...
Tomorrow I am seeing the brother of my most recent ex (which is how i met the ex) for a walk in the park with him and his wife, and then I have to work on a brief. Sunday I am meeting a very persistent guy from an internet site - I do not think we'll hit it off but since he seems like a gentleman what's an hour for coffee (this one is a starbucks date - want to make sure I can make a quick getaway!)
And, question for you all - you go on one date with someone you met on a weekend away (bu the lives close by) - he tells you he finds you attractive and would like to date you and is a perfect gentleman on the date and you get along great. The clincher - his ex girlfriend is going to have a baby (!!!) next month - they are co-parenting, haven't been together since June and he does not want to marry her although is being fully supportive. Do you run as fast as you can or (what I've decided to do) see him one more time before the baby's born to determine if there is even something there to pursue (I am positive that nothing even close to intimate will happen between us - I told him I want to take things realllllyyyy slow and he seems to be the same. If i kiss him that will be alot. I figure I will see him at most twice till his daughter is born, and then lay low and perhaps just see him occasionally as a friend till I see how he reacts (I would love it if they ended up married and I still want to feel that way for quite awhile!!).
Thanks all and enjoy the weekend. Go Yankees!!!!
However, if I really like him (and continue to enjoy his compliments), I probably would just keep things at a friendship level and communicate that to him as clearly as possible. That way, I won't feel too emotionally invested in him and still have the chance to "exit" early in our interaction.
If your gut says run as fast as you can, there must be a compelling reason why that only you can really know.
Also, his relationship with the mother ended only 4 months ago. She's due next month...so...they broke up when she was 4 months pregnant, right? I don't know what the dynamics were in this relationship. i.e. How long were they together? Who ended it? Under what circumstances did she become pregnant (planned/unplanned)? Did he know she was pregnant when they broke up? So I'm hesitant to make assumptions...but it does make me wonder if he's ready to date someone new at this point. And depending on the the answers to the above questions - given that you are looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage and children - is he someone who is right for you ?
As far as seeing him before the baby is born and perhaps seeing him casually afterwards...even if you can remain emotionally grounded - are you certain that he can do the same?