Hard Breakup...Advice?
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Hard Breakup...Advice?
| Fri, 01-05-2007 - 12:28am |
So I have been dating this guy since I was 16. I am turning 23 in 2 days. We have had a 7 year relationship and for the past few months I realized that I needed to break up with me him because I dont believe that 2 people can be together forever without being with at least one other person or at least being alone for a while. I started to become less and less attracted to him and we would have sex less than once a month. It took me 4 months to get up the nerve to break up with him because he loves me more than anything and would and does do anything for me. I finally did it last night and it was the hardest thing I have ever been though. I feel so completely lonely right now and I am wondering if I made the right decision. I cant stop thinking about him and I think about him more now than I have for the past 2 years. I want to call him and talk and go to his house and give him the biggest hug ever. I am confused because I dont know if my feelings mean that I still love him and want to be with him or that I simply feel bad for him and all the pain I put him through. We ended the night watching a movie but he left after 10 minutes saying he wasnt in the mood for a movie. I wanted him to stay so bad. I havent wanted to snuggle up to him and kiss him that bad in the past 2 years. I dont know if I am still in love with him because the months leading up to the breakup, I didnt think I was but now after the breakup I feel like I am more in love with him than ever. I cant stop thinking about him! What is your take on the situation?

i dont agree with either of those responses, personally. It is tough to find a loyal, commitment ready guy these days, and truthfully- if it aint broke- why fix it? it seems you love him and he was a good boyfriend. am i wrong? i wouldnt entirely give up. you may regret it the rest of your life after you have had your fair share of others. dont let him be "the one that got away" think of how hurt/jealous you will be when he finally moves on and find someone else. i mean, that is what you practically told him to do!!! let us know how it turns out.
-Leah
Hey there!
Well, I just went through the exact same thing... except, my relationship was from when we were 15 to 19. I had the same feelings you did; less interest, wanting to be alone, or with somebody else.
Once I finally had the guts to break up with him, I also went through the exact feelings your feeling. I felt miserable because I was no longer with someone who was a big part of my life for so long. I felt that there was an emptyness and I almost wanted to get back together with him to fill the void that I felt.
But, in all honesty... I'm so happy that I didn't. It's going to be a rough few months, but that guilty and empty feeling eventually goes away and you realize that you did make the right decision.
I wish you the best!
-Courtney