Harsh Reality

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Harsh Reality
Wed, 01-04-2012 - 11:55am

Maybe it is only me who faces the challenge of choosing unavailable men.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-04-2012 - 4:20pm

I think this is the most important one and the one that a lot of women seem to ignore (because they don't want to face the truth):'

"He tells you he's not looking for a relationship right from the beginning.

He tells you this the very first date, but still you think about what he said and tell yourself, "He doesn't mean what he says. Once he gets me, once we start seeing each other on the regular, once we start sleeping together, once we start hanging, he's going to realize he'll want a relationship." No. He told you from the get-go. You need to listen more and interpret less. You need to realize he's being honest.

I don't know how many times I've heard on various boards that a woman has taken up w/ some guy who told her he doesn't want a relationship cause he just got divorced, is too busy, he's too messed up emotionally, etc.--but the woman still wonders why things aren't working out!