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| Mon, 11-07-2005 - 12:02pm |
Hi all,
I was just wondering if anyone out there had been in the situation I am in now or knows anyone who has been....
basically, I've been getting really close to this guy since May but purely as good friends as he was in a long-distance, long term relationship (over a year). But last week they split up (she dumped him) and i have gathered that things hadn't been great for a while beforehand.
since then, I have seen even more of him and he has become very touchy feely though not in a sexual way or anything. he has also implied that he likes me but is a bit confused at the moment. I said I understood and we could jut wait and see what happens while he sorts himself out.
except now, I am afraid that he is just being so close to me because I give him the care and attention his girlfriend used to and that when he's got his head sorted he'll realise he doesn't really like me in that way.
so i'm kind of in this frustrating limbo situation of not knowing what's going to happen so I was wanting to know if anyone else has had a similar experience and what the outcome was?
xxx

Oh, goodness. I have been in this situation and the only advice I have to give is, tread the water carefulley with this one.... !! I had a guy friend whose girlfriend cheated on him and he really had trust issues afterwards. He liked having me around because I was able to listen to him and be there for him. As he quoted, "it's awlays nice to know somebody is there for me and to listen to me". Well, I got my heart broken big time with this one because I was waiting around for him to finally see me in any other light other than a pal who gave him good advise. Later to find out that if he did have trust issues, it did not stop him from dating girls. Plus he kept them secret from me, too. I am not going to say one way or another how I feel this situation could end up, because that would not be fair for me to generalize. But be very careful to give your heart to this guy. I am pretty sure he does enjoy having that compainionship with you, but whether or not he's willing to go the next step with you is another.......
Good luck, I feel your pain.
You ever been around a guy that is sick? Like physically sick like a cold or flu or something? Try it...you'll find out what big babies some men can be! ;-P
Thats what a guy on the rebound is like. You can't help but want to take care of them, to help them get over the cold...but tread carefully. You could end up with a broken heart!
Rubyshoes