Has Dating Changed?

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Has Dating Changed?
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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 10:04am
I am curious to the ladies response. I was taught on a date, to open the doors for a lady, to pull out their chair, to treat them as you would like to be treated, and to respect your date or girlfriend. My goal is not to make out on the first date, but to get to know someone. I'm not lookinfg to get physical right away, if the date goes well, maybe a kiss on the cheek or a hug. I hear others talk about dates and it is different than what I do. Do ladies still like to have the door opened for them and to be treated repsectfully? I'm not saying the guy has to do everything, and I know women are equal, but do you enjoy it when guys do things like this and don't expect anything ?
Plus, what are your expectations on a date?

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 10:51am

Well, just like eyeone I am composed of different aspects of life. My upbringing had a lot to do with who I am today. My dad raised us in church, so church has a big influence in who I am. I do believe in God, and that is one area of my life. I think it's awesome what the bible says about marriage and treating people, it's not all about do this or that, there is a lof of wisdom to be learned in the bible. I appreciate the fact that my dad worked in a factory all his life to support his family. My mother has struggled with depression all her life so I always felt like I had to take care of myself. I think that makes me a little more affectionate, and understanding.

I am from Dayton, Ohio, so I live in a decent size city and I've been here my whole life. I've noticed around here, it's the mre rural areas around here where people are more friendly. In the city people are in sucjh a hurry, and myself inlcuded we create this tension to do this or that. My parents moved into a rural area about four years ago and people are so friendly, it's a breath of fresh air. But as far as dating goes, I just want to treat ladies like I would like to be treated, and that is respect. I can't explain ti, it's just part of me. I believe that most people are that way, it's jst sometimes they get caught up in, carrers, family problems, finances, and whatever else.

It feels good to go out with someone and be able to talk and enjoy one another's company. I believe we are social beings and we need to share oursleves with one another and to love one another. It' really nice to go out on a date and open the door for a lady and see an honest appreciation. When you start a relation is nice to have someone true to you. Sex is not the biggest part of a marriage, but being ONE is. Sorry, my thoughts are kid of all over the place as I write this, so I hope I'm not confusing you. But I guess to answer your questin is I am made up of my experiences, my successes, faliures, education and upbringing, but I am no better than anyone. We are ALL different and have different gifts.

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 12:03pm

I had wondered if you found an apartment yet or not. So you guys are introducing the parents? That's huge. Are you nervous about it? When is that going to happen? I hope it goes well.

The knee is better, thanks. I was actually able to do 15 minutes on the bike at physical therapy yesterday. We are going to try the elliptical machine next week but I don't have high hopes for that. At least I can get back into cardio with the bike. I much prefer the elliptical but need to know my limitations and stick to them.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 12:15pm

Yes, yes, yes!

(I'm chiming in after only reading the OPs post, by the way).

I love it when the guy opens to door for me and just generally treats me well. It makes me feel like he actually cares about and respects women -- and that I'm more than just another gal pal. To me, it makes me feel really special.

A goodnight kiss on the first date is not a turn off, though. I think that lets the woman know that you're definitely interested. But, good for you for wanting to hold off on the physical part.

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Edited 6/16/2006 11:15 am ET by tallgirlcolo

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 6:45pm

Apologies to twoscoops and everybody else for the hijack...

I'm glad you are healing slowly but surely. Don't push too hard or it'll just re-injure. But glad you are able to get back to cardio and normal activities. I've been walking home from school everyday to strengthen mine again but I dont think it will ever be the same. Just hoping I dont reinjure it.

I've had my parents meet my other SO's parents before on a very casual basis but this seems to be on a whole other level. The big meeting is the first week in August. Its actually going to be a semi-road trip because they are driving 12 hours to Chicago to pick me up. We'll do a quick tour of the Chicago sights and then we're driving 10 hours to my homestate where my parents live where we will spend the weekend together. That will be a new experience for me as well because I havent really traveled that extensively with an SO's family. This has been in dicussion since November when his parents brought it up. I am slightly nervous and anxious about it but I also feel really good about it too. His parents are fantastic people and so easy to get along with so I feel positive that they will get along well. R is nervous too What is R's biggest concern? Getting any "private" time with 2 sets of parents hanging around..haaa!!! I told him we'll have to get away from them just so we dont forget about US in the process or go crazy.

Super big EEEK!!!

Ruby

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:58am
Well, I hope it's a good time - it sounds like it should be great. As for alone time, I am sure you two can figure something out. :)

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