Hate to give up but
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Hate to give up but
| Tue, 08-29-2006 - 11:29am |
I have officially accepted singlehood.
Tired of hoping. Tired of wishing and tired of people telling me there is a guy out there for me when in reality, there may not be. Honestly, I don't think there is really. From what I gather, men are already in relationships and committed ones at that. I've accepted that I'll never marry, have kids or fall in love for that matter.
We were all talking and someone asked who was the love of my life. As I look back, there really was no one. My last long term b/f was abusive and crazy and a cheat. Others were game players and didn't know what they wanted.
So to protect myself, I'm going to accept my fate as a single woman and not fight with it anymore.
Tired of hoping. Tired of wishing and tired of people telling me there is a guy out there for me when in reality, there may not be. Honestly, I don't think there is really. From what I gather, men are already in relationships and committed ones at that. I've accepted that I'll never marry, have kids or fall in love for that matter.
We were all talking and someone asked who was the love of my life. As I look back, there really was no one. My last long term b/f was abusive and crazy and a cheat. Others were game players and didn't know what they wanted.
So to protect myself, I'm going to accept my fate as a single woman and not fight with it anymore.

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Dear Liyahberry,
I would suggest, if I may, to give up the fantasy of defining yourself and your life through a man. But don't give up your dream (goal) of all of the wonderful things you envision for yourself. You can still be a Mother, you can still have a family, you can still have happiness and love in your life.
How do I know? I have been married twice (divorced both times) and have been a single mom for many years. I decided when I turned 50, to no longer define myself by someone else and decided to set goals and achieve what I wanted, for me.
I know it is a big shift in our thinking as women, but so far, it is working for me.
For what's it worth, I am still open to a new relationship with a man, but quite frankly, I have not met anyone secure enough or self-confident enough to understand that I value myself as a person, and my independence.
Sincerely,
cory38
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