Ha..too good to be true or maybe a scam..Shall see!!!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Ha..too good to be true or maybe a scam..Shall see!!!
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Sat, 01-11-2014 - 12:00pm

Okay here is the story guys.. A guy from OK Cupid writes to me and his photos looked pretty good.. He says he lives in Manhatten but right now is working in another state.. We exchange a few emails.. He is about 53 and you guys know I am 59.....

He then asks for my phone number so I gave it to him and he actually called me.. Guess what? He has a cute British accent.. We spoke for a few minutes and then he said hehad to go back to work.. He then asks me for gmail chat so we chatted a bit on there... He sends me pics and at first I thought oh; No they migh be nude pics but they are of him and the pics were fine and  he is really cute .. He says okay I will chat later and then call you again.. I said okay....

All I am hearing in my stupid head is SCAM.. but I will def. find out soon enough .. I know the drill.... The British accent makes me think scam..

It would be really nice though if it wasnt a scam... He sounded really nice on the phone and the whole thing sounds so nice but then again we all know about those scams...LOL

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Registered: 02-25-2013

I wouldn't waste more than 2 weeks chatting with someone without meeting them. I'd ask how often he goes out of town to work and how often he's home in NY. If he's not expected home anytime soon, I'd tell him to contact you about a week before he gets back into town because you're really not a penpal type of person. You could ask him what his favorite restaurants are in Manhattan and see if he's vague or actually knows the area. You don't want to waste 6 months of your life chatting with someone who doesn't pan out when you could use that time on better things. I hope he's a good one since British accents are really sexy!

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Registered: 01-02-2008

oops. I meant he did not .. did not ask me about finances on first chat... typo

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Registered: 01-02-2008

well I think people do travel for work ... and its a little too early to ask alot of questions so I will just wait and see and my radar is pretty high and my intuition is pretty good so I will know fast enough if its a scam of sorts.......

He says he lives in NY so lets see if he ever comes back and asks me out when he does.. the weird thing is that I am so waiting for him to ask  me on chat about finances and that sort of thing.. He did do it on the first chat but that is just to get your attention..so he has my attention so lets see what the next chat brings.. The first sign of that I will just log off and that will be that.

I am not too concerned about it but thinking now it would be nice if it were real so I would have to just forget it and get over it if its fake.. That is the part I dont like.. Feeling good about something and then the let down and having no faith in mankind again..

OH; well.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I hope it's not too good to be true--I'd ask him questions about the working in another state thing and see if he can give you definite answers that seem to make sense.  The guy who tried to scam me supposedly lived near me but just after we started talking on the phone, he  had to go out of the country on business.  There were a lot of signs that I should have picked up on that I ignored.  Like one example, he supposedly had 2 younger kids that were in boarding school and he told me the name of the town in MA--when I checked up on that, they did have a boarding school but it was only for high school.  Then when it was getting close to Christmas he never would say exactly when he was coming home.  I don't want to be a downner here, just watch out.  There are of course many legitimate people who do have to travel for business.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
I'd be a little cautious about the "living in one place but working somewhere else.' Depends on what he does for a living of course. He could have a wife and family or gf living in "another state"
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Registered: 04-16-2008
I'd be a little cautious about the "living in one place but working somewhere else.' Depends on what he does for a living of course. He could have a wife and family or gf living in "another state"