Have we forgotten to teach..........

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Have we forgotten to teach..........
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Sun, 11-25-2007 - 10:40am

Our boys and men social skills?? This is obviously a rhetorical question because we have. I can't take one more date with a man who doesn't know how to hold a convo..........


So I ventured back into the world of OLD, to try and get my mind off of my "crush" and to pass the time........


You know the deal, plenty of emails, and then one bite. So I have a rule. Email 3 times before a call, he calls, we talk, he calls several more times, but I wasn't home at the time........


I call back, we set up a meeting. So of course he's 15 minutes late to the restaurant, which by that time I was sitting and had ordered a drink. He comes in sees me drinking and says, "Oh you drink, do you smoke too" I said, no and I don't really drink because I probably won't finish this, I just like fruity drinks.........


So, he talked some about the atmosphere of the restaurant, but he couldn't look directly at me, he kept whispering the whole time, the waitress was very friendly and he thought "she was into me" I asked if I looked like my picture and he hesitated. I said, "that picture was taken a few months ago and I am wearing my hair the same and the same glasses and the same color lipstick"........


Then he said, yeah, kinda, so of course I tried to engage him in conversation again, I said, "what's on your mind young man, talk to me" Nothing much to say, was his response........


Now because he was late and I had already begun to order, I asked the waitress for seperate tabs, I knew I would have more than him and

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:16pm

>>Now that tickled me!! (this is not a put down but a fact) I don't think I have ever been so pretty a man couldn't talk to me.........


Well, a guy friend of mine tells me that's sometimes how it goes.

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 3:22pm

Our boys and men social skills?? This is obviously a rhetorical question because we have. I can't take one more date with a man who doesn't know how to hold a convo..........


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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 3:54pm

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 4:33pm

>>The calls . . . is he needy or excited? When you are on email or the phone and he is talking more, does he have anything to say?>>


When we are on the phone, he asks me about myself, what I like to do, where I am from, do I have kids, have I ever been married, etc. Our phone convos have been very productive. There is no lull, he makes little jokes. When he emails he writes about a paragraph, no mispellings, straight to the point......


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Well, aren't we all needy on some level, some of us just don't show it up front. No, the first date was uncomfortable, but I always give people at least 2 chances to prove themselves, I have been written off based on looks plenty of times and well it just doesn't feel good. I don't like to do that to people. Maybe I am being too nice, but I just want to be sure I wasn't misreading him. Maybe there is something wrong with ME.


Thanks for your input. It is greatly appreciated.


GT36


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Registered: 07-13-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 5:37pm

There is no lull, he makes little jokes. When he emails he writes about a paragraph, no misspellings,


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No misspellings . . oh no. Loser, dump him! LoL

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